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I have a friend who just went to a Do-it-Yourself divorce workshop. The attorney who taught the class gave everyone three pieces of advice that he said will make the biggest difference in how the dissolution will go.
1. The longer you wait before proceeding the more time for the X to calm down and accept the reality of the divorce. If everyone is angry then emotions play in it and can get nasty.
2. Be as nice as you can to the X at all time. No matter what. It protects the kids from seeing you in turmoil. In the long run the X who causes the most problems will not be on the judge's side when things get to court. The one who cooperated, did all the paperwork in a timely fashion, didn't bicker, etc will be the shinning star.
3. Keep track of every conversation your have with your X. Any agreements or disagreements should be noted and detailed. This will help keep a record of anything that the X may deny or lied about.
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