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My husband and I have been together for 8 years, married for 5. We've been trying to have a baby since the beginning but I have problems and need fertility treatments. I asked him recently to go with me the next time I go to the doctor and he agreed but quickly changed subjects. This past Thursday I got home from work to find him sitting at the kitchen table and he says we need to talk. He says we've grown apart recently and he's very unhappy. I knew we had, but every couple goes through rough patches and I thought the long winter had to do with it as well. He then told me he wanted to be honest with me, that he never wanted kids and he thinks it would be better off if we got a divorce because it's not fair to me. I told him I still love him and we needed to get counseling. He went on his own a few years ago because he thought he was depressed and needed to talk to someone. But nothing really happened. He's not affectionate and he's grown distant with me and everyone else.
When I suggested we get counseling together he said ok, if I agreed that we wouldn’t have kids. I said no, I’m not going to agree to that and we’re not going to go to counseling if you can’t sit there and tell me you still love me. His response was, no, I don’t think I do. Needless to say my life has been turned upside down the last few days. This came completely out of the blue and I’ve been miserable, not eating and thankful that I have a wonderful family and friends to help me through this. I just want him back though. He came home yesterday to get some clothes but he didn’t say one word to me.
We are going to talk on Monday after work, we were texting each other this morning because I told him we need to discuss this. There’s no other woman, I know that for a fact. Right now he’s staying at his sister’s house. He was diagnosed with ADD as a child and medicated for awhile but not as an adult. I’ve been doing research online and know there are ties from ADD to depression and bi-polar disease. I don’t know why he’s running away from me if he’s depressed. We don’t fight any more than a typical married couple about little things. I don’t know what I’m looking for on here, maybe just some ideas from people that have been in similar situations.