| Well, I think both people are wrong and right. First off, your sister probably felt that turning 60 is a big deal and it was important to her to have a party for her father. However, she should have talked to your family first and at least gave them the heads up before doing it. She merely asked if anybody wanted to pitch in, and not expected it of them, which I think was right.
On the other hand, I can understand how an event this big would make your mother and you somewhat upset since you didn't know about it and didn't get a chance to be invovled more. However, the world does not revolve around your mother. Though she may not like big parties, it doesn't mean she can't enjoy herself for 1 night for her husband. Even if their marriage is rocky, a party can still be fun. And it probably means a lot to him.
So what are you really upset about? After all, it's supposed to be a fun party! I'm positive your sister's intentions weren't to upset the family but rather to bring everyone together to celebrate a rather significant decade of your father's life.  |