| Do you find Cancer's to be forgiving?
As a Cancer, I can tell you that I may forgive on the surface, but deep down in my heart of hearts, I don't. Not only do I not completely forgive, I never forget---and once I have been slighted, there is a trust that is broken and may never come back. I can't stand all of this "Cancer's are clingy and willing to forgive anyone because their relationships are the only things that matter" talk, because frankly, it isn't true. We do have a sense of pride about us. We love unconditionally, and when that is betrayed or taken for granted---we don't readily or easily forgive---if we can find it within to forgive at all. If we say "you're forgiven", it is usually to let YOU off the hook, not ourselves. I know the psycho babble tells us that forgiveness isn't about the offender, it is about the one offended, but with us---it's not true. We'll let you think you're off the hook, but in reality, everythng we trusted and thought to be true about you is gone and we're starting from scratch.
Are there other Cancer's out there that feel as I do on the subject? Anyone experience this with a Cancer?
yukmay, I don't forget because I'm smart and won't get burned twice by the same person.  |