| I am a married woman of 30 years and my hubby is 33 years old .?
How on earth can you find it in your heart to love someone who treats you like this. You are his wife, he should be proud, not ashamed. What exactly do you think this man is giving you in the so called marriage that you can't do without? Is it sex, cause you can get that anywhere. He doesn't want his family to know you are his wife, he keeps all his money to himself and doesn't pay any bills, he doesn't do anything around the house and he refuses to give you any children.It doesn't sound to me like he has made any sacrifices.You are 30 years old and you want to have children. You are running out of time. This man has absolutely NOTHING to offer you, but a lot of heart ache. Don't wait to leave him, do it now, or some day you will be crying your eyes out, because you always wanted the joy of having children and now it's too late and you are too old to get pregnant.From what you have told us, you mean nothing more to your husband then a bed partner. I bet he's pretty selfish in the bedroom too.First thing you do, find his bank statements, which will tell you how much money he has deposited in his account each month that you have been married. If you can get your hands on his pay check stubs, then take them too. If he filed a separate tax return this year, grab that too. Take all this information to a friend's house to keep safe for you. Do not let your husband know you have taken these things.Now that you have all your evidence, you file for a divorce. Be prepared to prove in divorce court with your own bank statements that you paid all the bills with your income and he never paid any of the bills during your entire marriage. Then in your divorce settlement, claim you want half of the money he earned during the marriage. Now I don't usually advise people to get revenge, but after the way he treated you and refused to even tell his family that he was married to you, well....I think this jerk needs to be taught a little lesson in life. After you receive the legal papers showing that you have filed for a divorce against him, I would make a copy and also make a copy of your marriage license, then mail both of them to his family. Seriously! I WOULD do this!  |