| When I found out I was pregnant with #2 I had two friends that immediately said, "I want to throw you a shower!" My first thought was, "HUH? When did that become acceptable?"
I was informed that if you have the same sex (as I am having boy #2) it's called a diaper shower and the main gift that is typically given is diapers.
We have all of the basic stuff and only need a few replacements for a few things and only have two high dollar items we need (basinet & double stroller). I'll need newborn clothing for sure, my first was born at the onset of winter in MI and this one will be born in late spring/early summer in TX.
When we went to register I told the lady (who was elderly no less) about my akward feelings about this and she said, "Why shouldn't every baby be gifted? Why should we not celebrate each and every life?"
I plan to make the guest list smaller for this time and have it be a bit more intimate. If people choose not to go or don't like the idea it won't hurt my feelings but I'm definitely up for having a celebration for the life growing inside of me whether people bring a gift or not. (Afterall, many people send gifts once they get a birth announcement.)
In your situation I would sift through her registry and see if anything looks like it might be a legitimate need: bibs, bottles, pacifiers...things that may need replacing from child to child. I would honestly probably take diapers.
Just keep in mind that as long as you're buying something for the baby's use you're gifting for the child and not entirely to the parent. To buy name brand clothing or other "wants" would not be the same to me since those are things babies don't care about, and are only for the parents.  |