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Friends, family and my financial adv have convinced me the best thing to do when my divorce settles is to stay put. My advisor put it best saying spend $1500 to stay in a furnished suite at Marriott and then accept your families offers to stay with them for 5 mos---reason---she said what you will want in six months will be very different from what you want right now. The money you save will be worth the $1500. I believe her since I have been with my husband since I was age 19 & never been on my own. I am married over 25 years....the logistics overwhelms me. In the last 3 mos my family of origin (foo) all moved out of state for job changes. My kids are near graduation from diff colleges and I can't even pick an area of the country where I should live. My ex is agreeable to leaving my half of the furniture here for six months....but I 'm not sure thats such a good idea. My work transports easily since I thought he would be retiring and I would be traveling with him.
Some of my stuff is already in storage in one brothers garage out of state. Some stuff is here in NY. Now I am looking at an apartment or possibly living with a different brother....I want to chuck the whole mess buy a small house and settle in...but where? closest to the youngest child? She is a capable 20 yr old with her own life. Closest to youngest neices--they are fun and sure are busy---I'm feeling so alone on the planet. I went from a very full house with two extra teens living here to empty nest, job change and now divorce.....so NO I dont know what would be good for me.... I liked my life taking care of and being involved with all of them.....I need a new definition and I dont have the money to make big mistakes..... how do you navigate this? What experience and ideas can you offer? Thanks much. I know I am not the first person to ever get divorced and still love the ex----but it doesnt make my pain and confusion any easier....