Boyfriend going to Air Force, ways to cope?

[LyssaY]

My boyfriend of 6 months now is starting to talk about the air force and college. I know that the AF is something he wants to be involved in, and he enjoys it(he's been in JROTC for 3 years now). After high school he has mentioned going to basic training, and afterwards the two of us getting engaged before they send him off for the actual airforce training so they will keep him close to home so we can be together. I'm worried about him being sent over seas as soon as basic is over, could this happen? I think he is pretty sure about wanting to work on the planes, but he has mentioned being a pilot (i dont know if he is qualified though). Is his plan of basic training, engagement then AF training feasible? (ps i'm not sure how the AF/military works, so could someone tell me if they are paying for his college, would they take him out to be sent over seas or to do something else needed?)any help is greatly appreciated!

[RedBadM]

Sure it's feasible...But it will be extremely difficult. You shouldn't delude yourself into thinking anything else. Being a military girlfriend / wife is a tough place to be in. Ways to cope...Women take different approaches to this... close-knit network of friends, activism for support of troops, or just lots of meaningless sex. It's up to you.

[tomh5241]

if thats what he want great but all military is unpredictable and to be honest it dont matter if you are married he has a good chance of going overseas and also i have seen alot of relationships go to hell.

[ZackW]

talk to ur family about it

[Maalru3]

My high school sweetheart went into the airforce. The first place he got stationed was Alaska. This of course was after all his training. We married, but just cause you marry, doesn't mean they will keep him close. Here's the thing. YOu HAVE to let him do what he wants and needs to do with his future. YOu may miss him, but if it's love, it will work out. Don't just get married to be close, you have to get married for the right reasons which is true honest deep love. Military life is a hard one at times, especially for young people. So get what you want with your life and education, neither of you should change your goals, only make them work for the both of you. If you can't do this, then let him go. My x worked on the F16 plane. Yes they will pay for his education. Good luck hun.

[SharonO]

I would say it could happen but I would think he would have more training.. after my husbands basic training he had what they call a-school.. if he is goign to sign up to be a pilot.. he needs to do that from the beginning.. tell him to make sure if he wants to be a pilot then put it in the contract from the beginning. have them send him to school and train him for it.. otherwise he may not be able to go to school for it..

[MichaelJ]

dump him......really, if he goes in and is gone for a long period of time, he will find another female or something to substitute for you, and if you get married....big mistake....think of the kids..... your sanity!been there done that..... USNmichael j.

[TheJuggernautBIIIIATCH]

I have been in the army for almost 3 years now; I am currently deployed in the middle east. I have a g/f of 14months back in the states. When I first left to come here(overseas), she was not the same for a long time. She didn't start acting like herself until she started going back to school and got a better job with lots of hours. So Pretty much; stay busy and it will make things easy for you two. You shouldn't be worried about the AF sending your bf overseas, he should be out of harm's way on an AF base. I'm not 100% positive, but all the AF people i've talked to around here are only on 4-month deployments, which is not long at all. I have been gone for 4 months, and the time has gone real quick. I still have another 11 months (stupid 15month army deployments lol). Yes, the military does pay for your college, and yes, they can take you out of it for deployments, but on every major base or post overseas, they will have an education center where soldiers and airmen (maybe even seamen haha) can take college courses for free. If you have any other questions about the military, I'd be glad to help out.

[ilovemyairmanjay7662]

They won't keep him close to home during Tech School just because he is married. He'll go where his job training is and after he's done you will be able to live with him at his first duty station.

[Greco7162]

He can't be a pilot unless he's a college graduate. Why don't you look into joining the Air Force too? You can't hang your life on him and his ambitions you have to have something going on for yourself too. Normally airmen go directly from basic training to tech school with no leave in between and the first time he'll have to come home will be after tech school. He wouldn't have the opportunity for college classes until he completed all his job training. Then he could probably take night classes. The Air Force will pay 100% tuition while he is on active duty.Here's some links to read for information and give you a better understanding. Lot's of info.http://usmilitary.about.com/cs/generalinfo/a/military101.htmhttp://usmilitary.about.com/od/joiningthemilitary/u/joining_up.htmhttp://usmilitary.about.com/od/airforcejoin/Joining_the_Air_Force.htm