My 13 month old son has severe behavioral problems?

[orionray7842]

ever since my son was born we noticed that he had a very much stubborn personality. he would cry sooo much neither of us could do the things we needed to get done like cleaning the house. we asked the doctor because we thought it could have been colic or a milk allergy. she diagnosed him with the possibilty of milk allergy. so we switched to soy. he did get better but he would still throw fits...up untill today age 13 months old. but now it gets so bad it happens all of the time now. he will deliberitly do things he knows he cant do and then he will scream and kick his leggs like a 3 year old. when i give him food and it accidently falls he thinks i took it from him and he backs away from me untill hes in another room in the corner. i have never yelled at him or done anything to make him scared of me. and i punish him the right way like all of the books tell me to. tell him no calmly and give him somthing hes allowed to have. he knows what "no" means but he pushes his limit very far.he really acts like a 3-5 year old kid!!! no joke! we are actually thinking it might be a form of autisim. it does run in my family. i seriuosly need help but i dont know where to go or what to do. anyone have similar problems? please help give me your input thanks!!!

[Sunshine4555]

Since you have suggested these problems have been occurring long before he was one and therefore before a child is typical aware of the ability to be "defiant" I would certainly look into possible medical issues, if anything, only to rule them out. A child that is 13 months old should not be experiencing any type of behavioral problems.I would keep a log of his behaviors and concerns and bring them to your family physician. It is important to have it written down because this is no doubt an emotional issue for you and has caused you much pain and frustration. When you have it written in front of you, you can make sure not to forget important things. I would also keep a journal for a week or so of his eating patterns, meals, and sleep patterns. Good for you for seeking out help for your little one. If it is something like autism or some other medial condition, this surely cannot be enjoyable for him also. Good luck

[LG]

He may be autistic(if you suspect this go to a specialist and have him tested) or he may be just be acting like a little boy. take him outside more and do a lot of interactive games with him. Maybe he's bored or needs more stimulation then what hes getting at the moment.

[teeman2969]

To get help, I would suggest seeing a physciatrist for children. If he is not able to speak yet, notify the family physician.

[Jackie3580]

I definitely agree with sunshine. Babies are not born knowing right from wrong therefor they do not do something intentional. It is up to us to teach them those rules. I would definitely look into the possibility of autism or possibly another form...Good Luck

[kath_080126401]

First of all, good for you for recognizing and wanting to do something. I think you are doing the absolute best you can as a parent and maybe your son needs more from the medical arena right now. Definitely see your dr to get in touch with a therapist who specializes in behavioral disorders. He might fall somewhere on the spectrum, but then again it could be something minor and easily corrected.You are smart to act so early...nomatter what you find out, early intervention is the key. I work with some special education students who have been with our child study team since they were toddlers. So many of them have come far enough that they fit in perfectly with other children and you'd never know how difficult they had it as little ones.Good luck!

[VNT]

As babies they will pull from our emotional state of mind. Some need to be held all of the times and some no attention what so ever. If he is your first child is harder. Do have have him checked out. My child is drama drama. But everyone is different. Try to make sure that you have checked your emotional state too, he feels what you feel. Tell your doctor everything or write it down. Ask him for his help or opinion. My opinion, he sounds like a normal 13month old. Who need alot of attention, but normal. Tell him all the time that you love and try finding new activities for him to do. Try some Crayola color wonder. Hope this help ease.

[chriswswife7310]

Maybe what you're doing doesn't work. Our 3 year old is VERY VERY VERY strong willed, so I'm not speaking out of turn, however, from what you said, you may not be using the right forms of discipline. Sometimes you can't just use a calm no or give him something that he's allowed to have, sometimes, when the situation warrants it, a child needs you to either put them on time out (when they are old enough, your little guy isn't) or even eventually a swift yet not hard swat on the tush. One thing you can try is let him cry it out in his crib (I assume since he's so little that he's still in a crib). Some are appalled at this but if you don't show him that certain behaviors are unacceptable and he'll simply get something positive in return for his fits why should he stop? Sometimes, even at his young age, a little one needs a correction. For example, if you just mopped the kitch floor and you want your guy to stay off and tell him no, you can't walk/crawl on the floor and he does, physically pick him up and move him to the boundary line. If he crosses again, again, tell him "No!", move to where he is allowed to be, and keep repeating the process until he respects your leadership. Even at 13 months children are VERY smart and know a lot more than I think most of us realise. I think he's playing you because he gets an acceptable toy/object when he throws a fit, or gets a calm correction rather than something that lovingly yet firmly says you are the boss (and your husband)... sadly it's NOT easy. Our 3 year old is VERY trying, but they NEED NEED NEED our loving leadership, not our friendship.