Outlook for someone with stage IV kidney cancer?

[Mandy aka Dane-A-Holic]

I was wondering if anyone knew the life expectancy of someone with Stage IV kidney cancer. My dad was diagnosed back in January, and he has a grapefruit sized tumor on his kidney, it has metastisized to his lungs (1 cm lesions), he has another small mass behind his esophagus, and it has spread to his brain. He just finished his second and last round of radiation on his entire brain, and he is about to start his 3rd round of chemo next week.

The reason I am asking if anyone has any information about it is because he refuses to tell me or anyone else in my family. He doesnt want to worry anyone or make anyone feel sorry for him. I have read online that it has a low survival rate, something like 15% of people live 5 years, and some websites say people can live anywhere from 8 months to 14 months. I just need some information from someone who actually has been there or knows someone who has.

Please, no trolls, this is a very serious question.
Thank you guys. This is just a really hard thing for me. My dad and I werent close in the past, I mean, he and my mom divorced when I was really young and they always had a bad relationship and my mom literally moved me away for several years and he had no idea where I was. And once I got into my teens I was getting into all sorts of trouble and that just pushed us further apart. It really wasnt until the birth of my daughter 2 years ago that brought us closer. And it just feels like right when we're trying to repai our relationship it all goes to crap basically. Its just really hard.

[Loves Flowers Lady 1012]

I am so sorry about your father. Your father is still trying to deal with this diagnosis. He is feeling so many different emotions at this time. All his life he has protected you and he is still trying to do that. His prognosis is not good. You can read on WEB MD about the stages of cancer and the survival rate of stage IV is not high. Cancer can be very slow growing to very aggressive. He will most likely be more candid with you with time. He has so many things to think through and it is important to keep a positive attitude. Don't pressure him about anything and just love him. He has never needed your support like he does now. He may never open up about this, as men deal with this diagnosis differently than women. I wish I could give you a hug and pray with you. God will help you through this difficult time if you let him. Just pray and seek support from close friends and family.