Im dieing of cancer and i want to have sex before i die. Do you think im a pervert?

[Ashley]

Im 16 and have pancreatic cancer. At the moment i seem perfectly healthy. So im not gross or anything.

I want to experience what its like to make love to someone. I want it to be special and with someone i care about hopefully.

I have a person in mind. A good friend that ive known for a long time. I want to ask him but im afraid he will think im diseased and gross or something.

Should i ask him? Also do you think that im a pervert for wanthing this?

[queenie]

dear ashley, you may have a serious illness but you are still a normal young lady with all the needs and desires of a teenager , you are no pervert. this good friend of yours has known you for a long time, and is your good friend because you bring something to his life that he values, it is extremely unlikely that your good friend could ever see you as gross or diseased, he may fret about your illness and its affect on you, and that is your call to explain to him about your illness and all it entails to put his mind at rest and to help him understand what you are going through. maybe you could explain to him your yearning to experience a kiss, a loving embrace, to feel wanted as a woman, desired. as you are already good friends you will have a relaxed and enjoyable relationship to start with, which is a lot more than most people have when they start a relationship. try to enjoy the loving closeness that comes with close friendship . why dont you ask him out on a date,the cinema is a good place to start, nice and cosy, not to loud , a good place to need no excuse to get really close. go for it ashley, you sound like a sweet thoughtful young lady, i wish you well x

[Vera Gabriele]

I am very sorry to hear that.. if that is true you are not a pervert. It is normal to want to experience love...that does not make you perverted but if he doesn't feel the same.. as you do.. you can't really say to him .. I want to have sex before I die because even if your wish is perfectly sane and normal that would put him under stress and he would think this is emotional blackmail.. my good friend is dying.. I feel obliged to fulfill his maybe last request.. that would not be right.. not the right circumstances.. love is a gift.. it has to be given freely.. and sex without love is not really that great..you need mutual respect and mutual trust .. but if you use your illness as an excuse to ask.. that puts people under pressure they feel blackmailed even if your wish is understandable to me..

Take care.. I believe in eternal life of our souls...xx be friends with him.. but don't ask him for that. .. a friendship is more valuable and a greater gift than experiencing sex.... xxx

Hugs xxx