hi,my dad is dyig from stomach cancer(and it has spread)?

[kat]

my momis is in her 70s right now(and her memory is on the frritz) is not listening to the advice the docs or nurses give.i find pills all over the house on the floor in random places. my da hasnt eaten in 3 days and tonite he said he felt like he had a rash my mom ignores it and says hes fine. he doesnt even.last time she did that i called the nurse and told her what was going on with my dad that day.when i got to the house the nurse approached me and said it was a good that i called.my dad had an infection(as well as a high temp(my mom was pissed1 and told the nurse not to listen to me or call me anymore..but what if i did . a few days later my dad complained of pain in his foot.i took them to the er and lo and behold he had gout in his foot.(for 2 days my mom ignored it!!!! uuugh!! she even picked his pain meds..yet again he is sick and now has a rash. my mom has it in her head that he is not dying. can i call the doctor with my concerns?) i too am his caretaker. sorry so long
what are my option.i'm thinking i should just let it go.the daughter in me want s to make him as comfortable as possible.my mom woldnt let him have a cheeseburger which he was craving!! even though the doc said he could eat what he wants!! please help me!!!! thanks soo much
PLEASE I DESPERATLEY NEED ADVICE!! i also have brothers and sistermthat havent done a darn thing!!
i live in portland,maine
i have tryed to talk to my mom honestly and openly she just gets mad at me.and goes into this childeish act,where she mumbles and if i ask her a ? she ignores me uuuuuugh!!
THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH!! THE ANSWERS ARE ALL GREAT!! KEEP EM COMIN.LOVE&LIGHT TO YOU ALL!!
I LIVE 8 HOUSES DOWN FROM MY PARENTS. I AM THERE EVERY DAY.I TRED TO VOICE MY CONCERNS WITH MY MOM ABOUT DAD NOT EATING AND SHE SAYS THAT SHE KNOWS WHAT SHE DOING. MY DAD IS TOO SICK RIGHT NOW TO TALK ABOUT HIS NEEDS.MY MOM JUST IGNORES ME...UUUUGH!
MY DAD WONT EAT BECAUSE IT ALL COMES BACK UP