Just as I was preparing to file for divorce - the day prior I was hit with the news- my husband has a tumor!?

[CrystalG9426]

whatever you decide he needs you more NOW than he ever has. at this point its not about you. you have PRETENDED this long for the kids than continue for the kids. it will be about you when the kids are grown. have some compassion damn he is your husband. GodBless

[EVAN0630]

You are the kid's Mom first. Every thing else doesn't matter you chose to make two babys with this man and need to put your childrens well being before your happiness

[red207pilot]

If you were a HE and were asking this question, NO woman would advise you to leave. Funny how you're a SHE and you got a few to say "go ahead" you don't love him anyway.to answer your question, you stayed for 9 years, what's a couple of more years? If you're the grieving widow you look better to your friends and family than the "bytch who left a sick man"..I say that because you apparently care about what your friends and family think because you stayed in a marriage for 9 years for that reason.

[cope_acetic3719]

Divorce him anyway.Being divorced does NOT preclude you being supportive of his coming health issues. It just means you won't be MARRIED anymore during them. You have no love, so why prolong it? Besides, divorcing now will make sure YOU would not be liable for massive medical bills.It sounds cold, but you had already made up your mind BEFORE the diagnosis.

[teakibaby]

I'am sorry to hear this has happened to him but you can still be there for him in other ways besides as his wife.Tell him you will always be there for him but you can no longer be with him as his wife.This may sound cold but you have no guarentee how long your time in this world is so you can't sacrifice your happiness .

[teach3481]

No-one stays with someon 9 years and gets from him 2 kids without having some happy times with him or loving him even as a friend. So a friend u will stick with him because he needs you even though u do not love him as a lover . Always remember he is the father of your two bundles of joys , they are half his so if u help get through it u will let your children enjoy the company of thier fathers. Hard time either break you or make you. I hope they make you , for your children sake because when they are all grown up I do not think they will forgive you for deserting thier father at a time of need.

[SoulT0980]

He doesn't need a selfish wife right now he needs a friend...for the love you once had be by his side through his time now....you said in sickness and in health and yes you don't want to be married but you can be a friend ...what would you expect him to do if it was you ?????

[denise2255]

I would say go ahead with the divorce, but remain friends, and help him through his time.

[Snacky6298]

Stick by him until this situation is resolved/ manageable.There are children involved. Their needs are important too during this trying time. If you were childless I would say go for it. But you are not.Act like a adult, and have some compassion for a potentially dying man. You picked him. Make it reasonably easy for your children