My mother who was recently diagnosed with breast cancer, and recently...

[njbenavidez13]

...sperated is dating a married man.? She is investing all of her emotions into this guy and he seems to be somewhat unsure. My mother has endured so much disappointment in the last year and I feel i should try to protect her from another heartbreak. I am adult and I work constantly, so I am not always able to connect with my mother emotionally like i used to. I am very afraid for my mother and her condition. The last thing i want to see is her hurt more than she is. Please I would like only serious answers for this is a very serious situation.

[Drew Blood]

It's a sad state of affairs when a hard working daughter has to be a parent to a sick mother who either doesn't know or doesn't care about the difference between right and wrong. I give you all the credit in the world, despite the fact that you yourself are setting yourself up for a lot of disappointment yourself.

[stevey_32]

give your mom a little more credit. she knows what she is doing. it really is none of your business and i mean you no disrespect when i say that. use this time to try to bond a little more with mom. then maybe she wont want to turn to this guy so much. maybe you can get in a weekend getaway or make a once a week date with her. good luck.

[saxaphonist]

so! let her be happy her way.

[KRIS A]

sounds like you want to do a nice thing for her.
she is a grown woman and her social life is not any of your business!!!
i think it will backfire if you try to interfere

[Jane Marple]

My mother had breast cancer as well and it is nowadays treated very efficiently. She has to take her treatment very seriously and to never miss a treatment. Your mom is realizing her own mortality and it's probably explaining her new way of life. She may be finding some kind of comfort into this man that's hard for you to understand. She's a big girl, let her follow her own path. Try to find a way of spending more time with her, have more phone conversation etc. and maybe this way you'll break through to her.

[xchris]

It is a difficult time for your mother but she is a big girl....

[glittergirl]

She is dating a married man, and generally married men don't leave their wives. However, you say that your mother was recently separated also. It sounds like this married man might be a rebound relationship for her.

It is understandable that you are concerned for her to be hurt, but in light of her being diagnosed with cancer, she is probably just wanting to live each day one day at a time, and feeling that life is fragile. I got a call the other day that one of my friends only had 5 days to live. Now, if the chemo works, it could be a year to five years. My feeling was relief, but also that we are all living on borrowed time and we have no clue what tomorrow will bring, or if it will come. Your mom might just be in a state of shock right now, just trying to deal with things.

Your mother is a grown woman, just as you are, free to make her own choices. Let her make her own choices that she thinks will cause the most happiness in her life. Be there for her regardless of the outcome of those choices, and never say "i told you so" when those choices fall out in a way that you thought they would. She is very lucky to have a daughter who is so concerned for her well-being and happiness!