She says she doesn't want to get married?

[SarahLee9749]

Tell you brother to tell his ex the next time she calls to say to stop calling him. That way he can get over her, and move on with his life. He can find a gf that would want to get married.http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20080619061525AA0hOX5&pa=FYd1D2bwHTHzJbl uHOs4Qy70M4uEAOUpCSynLWz7Z73_bQ--&paid=asked&msgr_status=

[iStarbucks]

She should let him go if she is not going to change her mind on marriage. She is really kind of leading him on. He cant put his life on hold for three years. Unless he thinks she is his true love, in which case he needs to hold on tight. But he needs to try and move on because love is a part of life where you have to take risks. You cant hold back on it because you only have one life to find it.

[MrCurious]

i agree with you...i reakon she should let go of him too...after rejecting him 3 times wat it???but anyway...after rejecting him simply because of her "dreams".it shows that she really doesnt care about him that much and is only holding on to him for her benifits..i think its a selfish thing for her to do..and is unfair for your brother...because he is sorta baing used by her in a way...i totally agree with you that its unfair

[PattyM]

Your brother is the one that needs to let go. No one is making him hang on. It isn't that his GF isn't being fair. Your brother just doesn't know when to call things quits.

[aunthottie]

Honestly it sounds like she is trying to keep her options open, which is really greedy of her. She is using her studies as a cop-out! She does not want to commit, or she doesn't want to marry "him". Poor guy should let her go first and see if she comes to her sense's. It's not fair for him to be waiting so long for her to make up her mind,especially after a 4 year courtship.She either does or she doesn't and she needs to give the man an honest answer so he can get on with his life the way he planned to, with or without her. I wish the best of luck to your family.

[Lily67414613]

I agree with you.. and if this woman really loved your brother she would let him go, but obviously she does not. Unfortunately it is up to your brother to decide when he wants to be a man and tell her "bye-bye". I have known men who have wasted 22 years of their life for a woman to come back.

[lovelilanz16]

Yea it kinda sounds like she's holding him back but if she says she loves him she probably still wants to get married but not right away but these things they have to sort out on there own no one can help them.

[RevJackM]

I am sorry for what you and your brother is going through. I would also feel frustrated if it happened to me however, the woman says that there are things that she wants to do, and if she were to marry your brother she may not be able to do this.From what you say, she may still love your brother, and probably still wants to be with him, but feels that she is not ready for a commitment.Your brother needs to decide for himself whether or not he is prepared to wait for her. I can understand your feelings for him and I commend you for wanting the best for him. I also commend you for not being negative towards her.I suppose it would be easy if your brother were to discuss this with his gf and decide whether or not it would be worth waiting for or to move on.I do think that it is not fair, and will pray that things work out the way that they are meant to be.Blessings. Rev Jackm

[donn1645]

I can see where you are concerned, however this is a situation that is really none of your business. Your brother is, I am sure, well aware of what is going on and his girl friend is also well aware. If they are happy with the arrangement, then it is their ball of wax.

[free_angel3369]

He needs to take complete control and end things with her for good.