She says she doesn't want to get married?

[Ucello79]

My brother and his GF broke up 10 months ago. They both love eachother very much. She is the sweetest person and he is great. Before breaking up they were together for 4 years, he asked her hand for marriage twice she didn't accept. Her reason was she wants to continue her study in another country.They are both mature adults, bro is 31 and she is 26. After they broke up, she left but contacts him every other day, with no change of mind. Even though I love her very much, but I think she should let him go unless she changes her mind. It is not like she can not study in her own country but she wants to discover other cultures. He can't seem to concentrate on anything or anyone, he goes out on dates but it never works out.This is not fair, and of course I can't do anything about it it is not my right. but I just want to see if anyone else thinks it is not fair and she should let him go for good. She should follow her dream and she should let him find a new dream.PS: she is going for 3 yrsFor all of you who didn't read it well: as I said it is not RIGHT for me to get involved. and 2nd she is the one who keeps calling him and telling him that she loves him. I would never play with anyone's feelings like this. I think she loves him so much that she can't let him go to someone else.She could have stayed and continued her studies in her own country, he even suggested that he will wait for her after she finishes to get married.

[Sunshine1775]

It is not up for you to decide on cutting ties with her but your brother. I do believe your thoughts are right and she needs to leave him alone and he needs to stop communicating with her and if they reunite in 3 years when she comes back then so be it.

[nite_angelica2622]

It doesn't sound like she is trying to hold him - it sounds like she has been completely honest with him. I'm sorry, but it sounds like it's your brother that is not letting go, not her.I'm sorry for your brother's pain, but he must find his own way to let go of the relationship. In my eyes, she can't do any more than she's done.

[annonymous4671]

I think they should minimize the amount of contact that they have so your brother can have time to move on.

[John6782]

Sounds like she wants her cake and eat it too. I agree with you.

[dappad]

Yeah i agree she should let him Go three years is a long time and when she comes back if they both still want to continue then why not!

[GodblessAmerica]

Actually she is a responsible person. She doesn't want to hurt him. Just like you wrote: This is not your business and let them sort the things out. If many people (mostly family) want to give their advises they make things worse. So don't get involved in other people's life!

[HiT]

i think she really wants to do is the humpity in the other countries. best way to learn about other "cultures".

[TomT2806]

I believe you are right, he should begin to let go..or else he will just be a puppet for her,you can't leave someone for another country and expect them just to wait after you emotionally bashed them like that.explain to your brother that he should consider this, because if he doesn't then he will just be sadly waiting for three years, which no one should be forced to do.

[DartSwinger3789]

Your brother is 31. He is independent and autonomous. He should just do what he wants, and not be beholden to her. It is not up to her to "let him go for good".