Etiquette on baby shower for the second?

[heather]

I know of a person that is having her second child at the end of March. Her children will be 2 and half years apart. Both are the same sex and she is using the same initals, because she monogrammed everything for the first. I recently looked at her registery and found that she has asked for almost every single thing at the store, and I know over 75% of the stuff she asked for she already has from the first child. I really feel that in this situation it is rude to ask for things you have and don't need. She is a very materialistic person! I would like outside opinions on this please!
I do think that she is asking for things not just for the baby but for herself. She has over 200 things picked out on her registery and I know for a fact she has all the basic stuff expect diapers and wipes. She has asked for things that she already has..such as a rocker..I dont car how many kids you have, you arent gonna move from rocker to rocker with each child.
I do think that she is asking for things not just for the baby but for herself. She has over 200 things picked out on her registery and I know for a fact she has all the basic stuff expect diapers and wipes. She has asked for things that she already has..such as a rocker..I dont care how many kids you have, you arent gonna move from rocker to rocker with each child.

[Sara R]

that is badd.. my mom has 3, and only had a baby shower for me(the oldest) and her youngest because the youngest and the middle are 10 years apart and that is too outdated and we lost everything in katrina.. n-eways, the only showers she has had she didnt want. but that women sounds like she needs nothing. and if people really want to through her a shower, they should do what i heard and thought was a good idea.. the hostesses should have a raffle, and to purchase a ticket you must bring a diaper/bath supply and then the ticket that is pulled gets a basket of goodies. this women sounds very strange, and you really shouldnt spend more than 15-20 bucks on her, and 30 if she's a sister or a kidney donor.

[RdRedWine]

i would NEVER ask for a second baby shower. That is poor etiquette. Just give her a gift like diapers before the shower and don't attend the shower. That's what I would do. Anyway, the baby registry is a gift suggestion not mandatory.

[natalie c]

ya thats unfortunate some people are like that. I would make somthing home made. so its special and yet nothing she is asking for.

[Leaping_angel]

I think that if she already has this stuff get stuff she wil NEED.. Diapers, Wipes.... Bath stuff.. Ect...
I think that you can have as many baby showers as you want.. but if it isn't your first or if you kids are close together and you don't need alot of stuff.. ask for things that are not reuseable.
GOOD LUCK

[**A*L**]

When I found out I was pregnant with #2 I had two friends that immediately said, "I want to throw you a shower!" My first thought was, "HUH? When did that become acceptable?"

I was informed that if you have the same sex (as I am having boy #2) it's called a diaper shower and the main gift that is typically given is diapers.

We have all of the basic stuff and only need a few replacements for a few things and only have two high dollar items we need (basinet & double stroller). I'll need newborn clothing for sure, my first was born at the onset of winter in MI and this one will be born in late spring/early summer in TX.

When we went to register I told the lady (who was elderly no less) about my akward feelings about this and she said, "Why shouldn't every baby be gifted? Why should we not celebrate each and every life?"

I plan to make the guest list smaller for this time and have it be a bit more intimate. If people choose not to go or don't like the idea it won't hurt my feelings but I'm definitely up for having a celebration for the life growing inside of me whether people bring a gift or not. (Afterall, many people send gifts once they get a birth announcement.)

In your situation I would sift through her registry and see if anything looks like it might be a legitimate need: bibs, bottles, pacifiers...things that may need replacing from child to child. I would honestly probably take diapers.

Just keep in mind that as long as you're buying something for the baby's use you're gifting for the child and not entirely to the parent. To buy name brand clothing or other "wants" would not be the same to me since those are things babies don't care about, and are only for the parents.

[TotalRecipeHound]

Sorry, but I think a 2nd baby shower is tacky and wouldn't buy a thing nor would I even show up for the shower. The exception is if the parent lost everything in a disaster. The first shower is a celebration of entering motherhood. After that, buy your own.