Why are some brides get so bent out of shape about some wedding etiquette,

[Praizegirls]

but not all of it? Why is it that some brides are all about being "as etiquettely correct as they can be" with some things (like making sure all the people at their bridal shower is invited to the wedding or giving out wedding favors or spending $50 a head on food), but they don't give a crap about the feelings of their guests when it concerns other things? (such as putting very expensive gifts on the registry, creating a honeymoon registry, NOT inviting children to their wedding)...

Doesn't this bother anyone else? It bothers me a lot.
I'm not saying that being an etiquette queen is bad, just that I think it's bad to get bent out of shape about some etiquette, but not all of it.
Winter_spice78: You have made my point in one sentence. THANK you!
loki_only1: I agree with you about the registry. There should be a FEW more expensive gifts, but nothing too outrageous. Our registry has 126 items. 100 of them are below $30; the other 26 are over $30, but average at $50.

I am also having our reception within 10 minutes of the ceremony site. I find it EXTREMELY rude to have guests travel a long time to get to a reception hall.
I guess I'm looking at this from the perspective of my family and my fiance's family. It's HUGE and most of our family members have 3+ children. It would be very difficult for them to all find babysitters who will take care of 3+ children for 4 or 5 hours. I feel that it's wrong to put them out like that. I'd rather allow the children to come so my family can partake in the celebrate of our wedding than exclude children and have half of my wedding guests have to stay home.
To those to have said that I'm being "bitter and unfriendly": I'm just asking because that's how people are treating me about some things that I have asked in the past. I've asked questions about wedding colors, food choices, etc with no ill-intentions and people on this site have chewed me to pieces for my choices. Excuse me, but I have a right to be bitter and unfriendly to these people who are so hell bent about some "wedding rules" but are totally lax about others just because they suit them better.
Banana: I'm not from the country...lol. I'm from a city with 130,000+ people. The average cost of a 2 bedroom home, though is only about $80,000. It totally floors me that it's $800,000 in some places though. Why don't you people MOVE to where it's cheaper?

[Huntress]

I have heard of all of these. I don't find them uncommon, although I don't think I would do that myself.
They have a right to invite who they want, and not invite. I'm sure it's nothing personal about the children. Perhaps they expect the reception to run late, or are concerned about children being on the same road as a bunch of drunks?
Everyone has a few expensive items on their registry. Now if they are ALL expensive that's another thing. I hope they expect a lot of cards!
And the honeymoon registry I think is a great idea. Maybe they couldn't afford to go unless people threw in on it?
I'm an optimist though

[loki_only1]

Well... in our society, i've noticed people do things the way they want to. Period. Yet, original thinking isnt in their vocabulary, so they feel they have to "follow the rules"... that arent inconvienient.

Now, for what you consider rude... lemme try and lighten your distress. a) I was always told that you're supposed to put a few expensive gifts on the registery for person who want to "throw in" on a gift. Example, in my family - its customary for the cousins (when we were under 30) to throw in to get one large gift, because we werent... finacially stable enough to get gifts individually. My fiance says his family does something similar. b) Honeymoon registries... i dont nessicarily agree with them, but i understand the philosophy behind them. After living together for so many years before getting married - your household is already established, so a gift registery is rather redundent. c) as for kids... thats a total personal taste thing... sometimes kids, in some peoples opinions, get in the way.

I think, to each his own. I'm more inconvienced by traveling great distances between ceremony and reception, weddings on holidays, and things of that type are more troubling and "disrespectful" to me... than the other lil stuff.

Personal opinion.

[nova_queen_28]

I understand and respect your points.
As far as etiquette goes, it is not in against etiquette to exclude children.
It is a party and the hosts are entitled to determine if it is or is not a child-friendly party. Just because it is a wedding does not make this rule any different.