Etiquette in quitting your professional job?

[Pregnant with # 3!]

After having my 2nd daughter -18 months ago- I put in my 2 weeks at work. But after getting a guilt trip, I agreed to work 1 day a week, & help out w/ as much as I could get done. Even w/ working just the 1 day, I can't get away from the stress that goes along with it.
So I sat down w/ my husband -who has wanted me to quit this job all together- & decided that I have to quit again, but this time go all the way w/ it. I tend to be a people pleaser, so it is going to be hard, but when I go in this week I am handing in my keys, collecting all of my pictures and nic-naks, and getting out of there for good!

My question is, would it be okay if I write my boss a letter to tell him how I feel, and ultimately quit? I think it would be easier on me, and it would allow me to get it all out there, because I know the situation will make me very nervous, and hence forgetful.
A little about me: Wife to wonderful Husband, Mother of 2 beautiful girls (3 & 18mo) & 18 weeks pregnant w/ baby 3! I go to school FT working towards a Dental Hygiene degree, & (as a favor to my boss) I continue to work PT as a Dental Assistant. Amongst everything I take on, my Husband works FT & we rearrange our schedules so that one of us is always home w/ our children.

[whatever]

A wise person once told me, "Be very careful about what you put in writing." It might be better to just tell them. (or just a short to-the-point resignation letter.) Remind them that you only stayed on, because they begged you to, and that you tried it, and it just didn't work out. If nothing else have your husband call and talk to them. "Listen, my wife is quitting today. She's afraid you're going to try again to talk her into staying, but she really doesn't want to. It's too much stress with all her other responsibilities as a mom. Please respect her wishes, and don't try to pressure her into doing what YOU want."

[Doug S]

Never allow yourself to be guilted into working if you don't want to. If you want to become a full-time mom then more power to you!

Of course, if your job wants you so bad maybe they'll keep you on as a "consultant" which would allow you to keep up your skills a bit because eventually the kids will be older and you'll need something to do with your time. Plus, then you wouldn't have to work that often but just give them a bit of advice here and there. And the added money might be handy.

Otherwise, if you don't want to have a job and be a mom then don't. It's your life, you shouldn't make your decisions based on what makes others happy. Remember, you're the one who has to live with the choices you make, not them. They'll live. They may have to find someone else but they can if they have to. Your children will only ever have one mother.

[gmw2]

it sounds like you answered your own question. yes it would be alright to do as you have already said

[beez]

You have enough on your plate without working one day a week.

You're under no obligation to explain anything. But it's only right to submit a letter of resignation giving two weeks notice.
If it would make you feel better, you can say it is due to family obligations. Nobody will argue with that or try to put you on a guilt trip.

[Melvin C]

Hi hi

After reading this, I was thinking to myself. . . wow. . . a super mon.

Frankly, in life, we went thru' different phase. We cannot do everything all at one time. From what i read, this is your time to be a mon to your 2 +1 kids. When they are alittle older, perhaps you can return to work force.

Go share your concern to your boss personally, follow by official letters. In my opinion, a good boss is one who can steer the company to greater height, as well as to maximise the potential of an employee. In your case, he needs to know your struggle and let you go.

May God bless you and your family.

P.S. I returned back to my country from overseas posting pre-mutually, as I deem that my children needs me. As Chinese, I believe it is the father that discipline the children, and I am glad I came back to do that.

Now my school going girls are into a strong relationship with me, which I do not have when I was away from them.
Life is not just money alone. When a Chinese said that, he mean it.