Etiquette- What to do with obsessive friends?

[mamamia!]

I have four+ friends that need me all of the time, my phone starts ringing at 7-8am, and they ALL call several times a day if not more (sometimes like every hour), one of them comes over to my house several times a week, even if I didn't answer the phone 20mins before. I feel totally overwhelmed by this and don't understand why they need to talk to me all of the time. I often times avoid their phone calls, because they are hard to get off the phone with, and then eventually, because I feel guilty I answer and give them some talk time. They have all shared with me that I am their closest friend. I don't really want to continue these relationships, but I don't want to hurt their feelings, because they are good people. I am 24 with two toddler boys, that soak up most of my time already, then I also own a salon studio on top of that. I like to have fun and am always positive and happy, which might be why they all like me so much, but I am ready to move on. Please help me!

[Dandy]

The bigger question is . . . what are you doing to constantly attract needy people? Are you the motherly type? There's always a reason why. I used to feel that way too & I realized I was giving WAY too much attention to everyone else, and not thinking of myself so much. Good for you for learning. Just step back a bit. People get the hint. Don't make yourself so available. I would just tell people that I really don't have time to talk & I'll call ya tomorrow. And then I wouldn't call. They always find another sucker. Trust me.