is it bad to feel this way about my family?

[newlywed24]

my parents, sister, and i lived far away from anyone else in my family. we would only see them, at the most, two times a year. as i got older, i might not even see them every year. (typical conflicts with being a teenager.) i never really felt close to anyone in my family. they always seemed like just another person to me. i never understood why i had to like them just cause they were "blood" related. i was more close to family's friends that i had grown up around than my actual family. i have recently moved up to a town close to my family members and gotten married to a wonderful man. i never go see them because i don't really know them at all, and i don't feel like i owe them anything. my father is mad at me and says i am being rude. i don't understand. they are strangers to me. i don't care to know them. they never reached out to me, so just because they are blood, i don't think it means anything.

[wench4life]

i feel that way sometimes, specially about one of my family members. so, no i do not think it is wrong.

[decbaby8303]

its family though. aren't you even a little bit interested to get to know them? Its not their fault you never saw them when you were younger, its partially your parents fault as well. Your closer to where they are now, ask someone out to lunch or something, find a cousin that your close in age to that you know. I know that when my parents pass i would like to know that family is there by my side, because those are the only ones who really knew them better than anyone else. Plus they have pictures and memories. I'm not saying they have to be your best friends but you should at least try to get to know them. might make family get togethers a little bit more fun.

[Tianna S]

You almost answered your own question..just because they're blood doesn't mean that you HAVE to visit them, especially since you don't really know them like that. You don't owe them anything especially since they didn't ever make the effort to come out and visit you when you were younger. If you'd still like to meet them and get a chance to know them, ask your father to host a family dinner, inviting over those family members who live near you. Maybe that way you could get to actually know them. <best answer>