I am at war with my boyfriend's family! Help!?

[Abrielle K]

I have been dating my boyfriend for just over 1 yr. When I met him, he was high all day and had no job. He quit for me and got a job, he's very smart & a great guy. We got a palce 30 min. away from his fam. His entire fam does drugs - even around their children. His sister is too poor to get health insurance for her baby - but buys big screen tv's, pot etc.
My fam has never been like this. We def do not approve of doing drugs all day, or around kids.
Lately, his sister has been silently attacking me. She talks about me to him behind my back, and invites him to come over and do drugs. She told me : Marijuana is our family, it's our thing, he's depressed you've taken that away from him. (?) I have been told I am not allowed at their house because they hate me, and that she 'misses having a brother'. so he goes over there alone and has started using again. He now says I control his life. (her words) She obviously wants control over him. He thinks I just hate his family.
You guys sound like my friends! : )
The only problem I have with just leaving is I love him so much, I know he can quit and be a great guy without it. But how can I deal with the sister? She's doing everything she can to make him a bum again! She recently said that I couldn't even come to their family's easter. Ahhh!
Anyway, I hope something works out.

[Captain Cupcake]

It would seem that he loves his drugs more than he loves you. Until he once and for all is in rehab getting treatment to kick them, they will control him. You need to decide if you are going to put up with it the rest of your life (He won't really quit until he is in jail since it seems he doesn't care how you feel about it right now.) or find someone new who isn't a junkie. The other thing I would suggest is that the next time they are going to have their drug party, you inform law enforcement about it so they can remove the children from it (It is considered child abuse in many states to expose children to drugs even if the kids aren't using them.) and the parents all get forced into treatment or jail, but be prepared for all Hell to break out since they will know it was you who snitched.