Family or boyfriend?

[B[a]MBi]

I have been w/ my bf for about 3years. There is so many complications w/ my family && his views. I found out I was preggo twice w/ in 6months so now my mom has me on limited phone calls && visits. He hates that.

I feel like Im in the position of family or him. I really dont wanna be in that position. I cant live w/out family, but I dont want to end my relationship w/ him.

My family says to dump him && find someone I desserve. But I dont want to start all over. I am soo young, but I dont want to start all over && end up not finding someone of my liking. I just wish they could get a long. What should I do?
Im 17 && no abortions!! Im a senior going to graduate in a few months. Yes I am afriad of starting all over again I am not going to deny that. I want to make the right decision thats why I come here to have people that dont know all the situation to help in their own opinions.

[CHELLE BELLE]

You are living in fantasyland darling. The issue is not that your parents are trying to keep you from your bf. The issue is that he is the father and whether they like him or not he is your babies father and your child deserves to know him. Whining over and over about how unfair they are being just shows to them that you do not understand the situation you are in.

You need to put the focus on your baby and not this man. It is great that he is still around, that is realitively rare. But the chances that you, the baby and he are going to be a big happy family is slim to non and the only one that doesn't get that is you!

You have already betrayed thier trust in your ability to make good choices and the only way to change that is to start making good choices. A good start would be putting your baby before everything, including your parents and this boy who knocked you up. Nothing is more important and sorry, he may be there for you, but the people that can help right now are your parents. As far as him, start figuring out how you can co parent with him. If its meant to be, he will be around for you when you are 18 and can legally make your own decisions. Until then, focus on him being the father to you child and leave this relationship stuff behind.

[Good Answer]

move on, you were preggo twice in 6 months. you just have to be more responsible. you really have to focus on family guys come and go. find an outlet like working out or something to replace him

[decbaby8303]

dump him. trust me you will find someone else. saying that you don't want to start all over is the lamest excuse i've ever heard. your just scared to start over. because you are young is all the reason to let this one go and start again. No respectful guy would have gotten you pregnant 2 times in 6 months. Your family will always be there for you, a guy won't always. Think a little bit and be smarter about your decision. Its just sex, you'll live without it, your too young to be doing it anyway, and one of these times your pregnancy will stick, unless your getting abortions, than shame on you, once the second time hit you should have to deal with the consequences.