Vacation...friends vs. family?

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My boyfriend and I are supposed to go on vacation together in a month. It was a toss up between a cruise, FL (where he used to live 2 years ago), and AZ. He told me last night he wanted to go to Florida…that way he could see his friends and I could meet them. I haven’t been on a “real” vacation since I was in about 6-7 years old. (“Vacation” all my life meant going somewhere to visit a relative…I have a very big and close family all over the U.S., so if you are ever traveling, you better be visiting a relative.) Well my 94 yr. old Grandpa lives in Miss. I haven’t seen him in at least 4-5 years. He hasn’t been doing well, and with my work schedule I haven’t been able to take time off to visit. I know the geographical differences between FL and MS…but I suggested maybe taking an extra day, driving down to MS for a day/night, flying from MS to FL, flying from FL to MS and driving home. My BF said no way...it would be too expensive.
What frustrates me is he chose FL so he could see his friends, and I agreed. (Even though our vacation was supposed to be to someplace we had never been and didn’t know anyone.) I’m finally taking time off of work and going down south, so I figured it’d be a great opportunity to stop by my GP’s and an opportunity for my GP to meet the man that I am in love with. I’m tempted to tell him he can go to FL and I’m going to Miss. But I KNOW that will piss him off and the last thing I want is for him to go down to FL pissed off at me.
Background to FL…he still has a lot of girls that are friends that live down there that he still keeps in touch with. They don’t know about me and still drunk dial him at 3a.m. He been talking about going to FL to visit his friends for a while. I told him I wouldn’t feel comfortable unless I went with him (mainly because of his girl friends). I figured they could all see me and meet me…get to know me. Then these girls that call him at 3a.m. would be a little more respectful and would be less likely to disrespect me when I’m not down in FL with him
Not like I’m asking him to spend the entire vacation at my GP’s. Just a day. And if it’s too expensive, then it’s out of the question…on the back burner for now. I know I shouldn’t even be going on a vacation…I should be spending time with my GP. Like I said, I haven’t been on a REAL vacation since in 20 years!
Not like I’m asking him to spend the entire vacation at my GP’s. Just a day. And if it’s too expensive, then it’s out of the question…on the back burner for now. I know I shouldn’t even be going on a vacation…I should be spending time with my GP. Like I said, I haven’t been on a REAL vacation since in 20 years!

[JOKER]

I'm sorry that you're caught in this dumb argument. i think that you're doing good because you're compromising, he's not. he should stop being selfish. you really need to sit him and talk to him and let him know how important this is to you. (although it's kinda obvious) but he needs to understand that your GP is already old (no disrespect) and that he might not be around for too long (don't mean to be a jerk about it) and he should want to spend time with you and him, (cause it's important to you) and about the girls that call in the morning ... i don't know cause people that call at the time are not caring about whether they are being respectful or not. the thing is that he should tell them about you, and tell them to stop calling. HE SHOULD DO IT. you shouldn't have to deal with that, tell him to man up. (unless he still has 'ties' with them) you should see your GP. good luck

[biggyboii]

tellyour bf that if u all go to miss to see your gp and stay there a week or so and visit your gp 2 days and have his flordia friends tae the short trip u there and u all hang there so if anytthing goes wrong u can be there for your gp

[Trisha]

vacation could wait a little bit longer if you have already been waiting for 20 years. your grandpa is the one thats important right now. you should spend as much time with him as you can or else you might soon regret it. tell your boyfriend that he can always visit his friends but your grandpa needs you right now and it will mean a lot to you if he could meet him and spend time together while you can.

[daisy519]

If he's going to FL then I think you should go too. (Although I think it'd be better if you both went somewhere else). Or maybe spend part of the vacation in FL but tell him you don't want to spend the entire time hanging around with his friends. Maybe spend part of the time in a different part of FL.
Then on the way home , let him come home while you go visit your grandpa with your own money. He's 94 so it might be your last chance.