Adoptees...did you miss looking like someone in the family?

[Robin]

I've seen many comments about international or interracial adoption - things about the culture & language being different, etc. All valid points. And it got me wondering how many adoptees noticed that they didn't look like anyone in their family even though your adopted parents were the same race?

I was adopted by parents that had the same coloring, etc. I never had a good 'self image' of my appearance (could have something to do with a nasty comment from my a.mom). But I wonder how much of it had to do with the fact that I didn't look like anyone in my family.

Before I found my birth family, I really looked forward to looking into a face that looked like mine. Did anyone else share a similar experience?
Family isn't just about blood to me-it's about ties. I've remained friends w/my ex & view him as part of my extended family. After all, we have a child together & we both are HER family. I embrace my friends as part of my extended family & families are forever!

That personality trait didn't change my desire to see a face that looks like my own. When I met my 1st mom, I barely looked like her. She is 6" shorter than I (as is a 1/2 sister). When I met my b.dad, I found out who I looked like. It was blatantly OBVIOUS that I was his daughter! 6'4" tall, same coloring, & my face looks is the feminine version of his (he said I look just like his mom & sis). One of his daughter's & his former wife both say I have his mannerisms & expressions. Strange, since I never spent much time with him. It IS comforting to know (finally) who I take after, who I look like. I take after both my dads, BTW. Just in different ways.

It's not about embracing differences. It's SO much more than that!
Thanks!
Oh man...hope you all will forgive me but I just can't choose a "Best Answer" b/c all of you have written so eloquently about this issue. Thanks so much for sharing your stories! I'm just so moved by your stories.