What should I do for my wedding with little money and a huge family I am very close

[Cali C]

with? My family is huge between all my aunts, uncles and cousins, there are 70 people from my family alone I would like to have at my wedding. On top of that another 50 for close friends. Then there are the inlaws family and friends on top of that... Roughly 175 people. We're paying for our wedding ourselves, my parents don't have money and I would feel bad accepting money from my future inlaws. I love my friends and family and want them all present on our special day. But it is all or nothing as far as inviting guests. I don't want to cut the guest list, so it's either everyone or just parents, siblings, grandparents and a couple best friends each. If I were to do the smaller, I'd want to have a destination wedding, because we have saved up money for our honeymoon. But my mom says a destination wedding is selfish, because they dont have money to go on vacation, and my dad does not go on airplanes. We pretty much ruled out the big wedding, but what can I do with our immediate family instead?