What should you do if the person you are in a relationship, family and you...

[Angie]

...can't seem to get along?
We have been married for 11 years and sometimes we get along but lately the relationships has been a problem. Not because of the lack of trying but because not seeing eye to eye on issues. You know like, agreeing to disagree.

[Apache Indian]

3 scenarios based on experiences:

1st Scenario:
If I can't get along with any type of casual or good friend for whatever type of issue, I will initially reason with that friend of mine and try to find alternatives/solutions to those issues so that we could compromise and get along amicably in the forseeable future. However, if all avenues fail bitterly, then it's best I mind my own business and move on with my life. It's no point having any type of friendship with any friend you're not comfortable with anymore. Anyway, we don't owe anyone a living, always remember this!!!

2nd Scenario
If I can't get along with my partner or girlfriend for whatever type of issue, I will also initially reason with her and try to find alternatives/solutions to those pending or re-curring issues so that we could compromise and get along amicably in the forseeable future. Being mature in relationships; Experience comes in with regards to such matters. However, there is a limitation to everything and if we can't compromise at all, it's best we move on with our Lives. It's no point clinging on to any relationship with no future in it and from experiences, I know that too. Life goes on. It's not the end of the world.

3rd Scenario:
This is a tough one though I don't have such issues at all. If I can't get along with any member of my family for whatever type of issue, I will definitely try to find alternatives/solutions to those issues and end it. Blood is thicker than water and Family comes first before anything else. However, if we can't compromise (which I don't suppose so), then it's best I just mind my own business, meet up less often unless on special occasions and move on with my Life. Whatever the issue is, when it comes to family matters; it's not easy to break a solid bond compared to Scenario 1 & 2.

Adios!!!

[serendipity]

if u r serious about this person and are considering marriage then discuss whether he expects u to stay with his family.. if u have ur own place.. and u really love this guy.. then just be polite with the family when they visit or when u visit them.. take small gifts for them.. help around a little.. it takes time for people to accept other people into a family.. some do it easily some do it with difficulty.. but if u love the guy who cares right what others feel? oh, one more thing never say anything bad about the guys family to him.. now or ever! best of luck!