How do I deal with my boyfriend's family?

[Broadway chick]

They really hate me. At first I thought it was just his parents but after I went to his cousin's wedding with him I realized that it was pretty much his whole family. None of them like me at all, I don't know if it is because I didn't go to college like most of them did or what but either way they were very mean to me at the reception and also when I went to the rehearsal dinner the night before. I remember asking his cousin (not the one getting married but her sister) if I could sit at their table since my boyfriend was talking to some other guys and they all looked at me as if I had some nerve to even ask or something. And when I caught the bonquet everyone was all quiet and looking at each other. I also overheard a converstation between two of his aunts and his grandmother in the restroom saying the couldn't believe Elise (his mom) would tolerate Will dating such a trashy girl. I just wanted to cry. I want them to like me. What should I do?

[leaf]

Cut your loses - they suck as human beings. I would suggest limiting your time with them and when you are with them be polite but distant. There is no reason to jump through hoops to get them to like you when they are obviously snobs.

[eljmoe]

I'm sorry you're in this situation. I would mention it to your boyfriend, but dont sound accusatory, just say it out of concern. Ask him if there is anything that you could be doing differently, and ask if they have ever said anything to him about their feelings toward you. If so, it is his responsibility to stand up for you, and if is isn't, then you need to have a talk about that. You need at least one person on your side!

You should definitely continue to be sweet, caring, social, and helpful, and hopefully they will change their views. But, that doesn't mean you should just sit there and take blunt disrespect. It's hard, because you have to find a balance between standing up for yourself and sucking it up to be a sweet angel. I'm not sure, but start with talking to your boyfriend about it out of concern, letting him know that you really like his family and you want the feeling to be mutual.

Good luck!

[blueberry]

why do you want them to like you ?the important thing is that he loves you and try to ignore and be less around those lunatics

[Riley]

did you try telling your boyfriend yet? about how they make you feel .. and how they've treated you?

first of all.. i think its very immature. not of you. but of his parents.. or even his family. if they came from a good family, they would have to learn to accept anyone they way they are, and if you're a good person, whats there to judge? try talking to your boyfriend and telling him.. maybe he could talk to his family and ask what this nonsense is about. cuz if anything.. it isnt fair for you to feel that way.. i hope you feel better.

[Biff Barkowski]

Ouch... Well, families are part of a package in relationships. Don't try to have him pick sides but you could ask your boyfriend what is up?

[Pepper F]

You should still make an effort to be nice and polite, despite how the treat you. Be yourself, and let them see you for who you are. If they can't get over it, then don't worry about it. You're not dating them.

[Ninja Man]

Next time that happen sing ' Move BACK the Onyx is HEREEE BACDAFUCUP BACDAFUCUP' is here nagga, naa shOrti say to ur b/F wuts up wid ur parents why day gotta be acting like a bunch of redneck muthafukers...if u dont say nottin i will....then u go up to the grandmas and say WUT NAGGA BREAK URSELF

[maitapr97]

Pay them no mind, fuck it as long as you love your man and he loves you that is what counts. You don't need them for you to be with your man.
They will eventually get over it.