baby shower for number 3?

[erin_maree]

I'm expecting #3 in October and I have 2 friends that want to throw a baby shower for me. I feel really guilty have a 3rd. I got two with my first. One in Melbourne and one is Sydney. We didn't have much money first time around and we were very greatful for everything we got and it helped us out so much. I had a little one for my second and I felt guilty for having that one as we didn't need anything because we already had it.Its been three years between #2 and #3. I have given so much away and we are starting over from scratch. We can afford everything this time. Instead of a baby shower I want to have a meet the baby after it's born. That way People don't have to bring anything for the baby. I feel like i'm using my friedns and family for the 3rd time.What do you think?I have told my girls that i really don't want another and they are very happy to do the after baby is born party!My mother in-law said I shouldn't have another but then other friends have said you so need to have one.I would love to show off my baby to all the people that I would have liked at my baby shower. I think for a 3rd baby people would like it more.

[traciabrooke8707]

You are not using your friends and family. I have never met anyone who felt like they were being used because of a baby shower. I have a cousin who has FIVE children and she had a baby shower for every one of them. If anything, people were excited to be buying stuff for another baby. Listen, people will buy stuff for your baby no matter what. One of my cousins just had her third child and she refused, as much as I begged her, to have a baby shower, because she said the same thing that you are saying. She had a shower for the first two and she did not want people to feel like she was using them. But if you think of it this way, a) it's not like you got pregnant so people would buy stuff for your baby and b) they're buying stuff for the baby and people love doing that. If I were you I would have another one. I don't think that anyone would feel put off by it.

[tiffanyellyn83]

I had a baby shower with my first only and I am expecting #4 now. I had a friend who had a baby shower with her 3rd. I think if your friends are wanting to throw you a baby shower let them. Its not like you were asking for one.

[Kashi8721]

Tell them that you feel uncomfortable. But, if they really want to do it then let them. I like the idea of a meet the baby thing, or family celebration. Sometimes, people do like to give gifts though. Maybe everyone can bring in a donation to donate to a local women's shelter, or your favorite charity. That way you can still talk w/everyone, but won't have to feel guilty about gifts you don't need or want.

[Bookey-pie]

tell your friends how you feel and that you want to have a get together after the baby is born ..and that no gifts are needed but if people want to bring them that it is completely optional, then have a set place for gifts to be put but don't open them in front of everyone, open them after everyone leaves, just be sure to send thank you's out but if they reall really want to have a shower before ... and alot of people want to come I'd say have only one and only register for small gifts so no one really has to spend alot of money, and you don't feel like your pressureing them to get you something, because no matter what if people want to get you something they are going to weither you have a shower or not.