Ladies what would you think?

[kings4oasis1]

2 and a half months after your split with your ex boyfriend. Now you did the breaking up and you said you wanted to remain friends.(the breakup was on good terms) I want to write a letter to her expressing how I feel about her. Is this the wrong move or what? A big part of me thinks it'll push her away further but I dunno, I realllllllly want to write something to her to let her know how I feel about her.we still talk here and there on the phone, txt too.I want to know from a woman's point of view how they would react to a letter like this.

[VioletPearl]

I wouldn't do it. If you're such good friends, then tell her how you feel. Receiving a letter would make it awkward-- am I supposed to write back? Am I supposed to bring it up next time we talked? You put the burden to respond on her, and that's not cool.

[KonaCutie33]

It actually would depend on how I felt about you. If I still had feelings it might make me want you back, but if not then it could push me the other direction.

[DJSammyJ]

Why do you want to write a letter..I mean it seems it is a bit late since you have already been split for two months. If you feel this will bring her back to you I would talk to her in person about it.

[StephanieS6261]

i think that its okay to do that BUT dont take it too far ya know? if u do she'll only push u farther away.p.s. check out my latest Question..Please? i need help!

[msenigmatic]

Well, if she doesn't have feelings for you like that anymore, she may feel the need to distance herself from you more for your sake. But overall she will be flattered. You just have to be prepared for a major change in your post-breakup relationship.... equal and opposite reaction possibly. If you think she still has feelings, are you hoping to win her back? Or is this a more cathartic exercise for your soul? You can always express yourself with writing and not give it to her. Good luck either way.

[T-Bird]

It depends on how long you two were together. It depends on how close you were and it depends on WHY she wanted to break up in the first place. I would wait just a little while and then write the letter. Give her some space and time. Give yourself some space and time too. That way you can both figure out how you feel about eachother and if you really want to be together. And don't push her too much. If she starts to miss you and starts coming back around, then you will know how she really feels in her heart. Without the distance and the space, she will never know what it's like to miss you and what it's like to not have you in her life. But if you dont write the letter, then she will never know how you feel about her. Just give it some time.

[Heather7049]

You should definately sit down face to face and talk to her. Granted, all girls like getting letters like that, especially when the feelings are good (and mutual), but not when you've dated before.It could hurt the friendship, and ultimately, any chance of her returning said feelings in the future. My advice would be to sit down with her and tell her that you have some things you have to talk to her about, and that you don't expect an answer. Make sure that she knows that there's no pressure, and that you just have to get those feelings off of your chest. If she feels pressured to comply or respond (as she would with a letter), it might make her avoid you.