How to stop giving the guys the impression that you are a friends with benefits?

[Bigbrowneyes]

Throughout my whole life, I have not had a boyfriend and always had guys that wanted me as a friends with benefits and am tired of it. I never dress slutty or do anything along the lines of that and yes, I do get desperate but now am tired of it and I am wondering how I can keep up my guard up and not give in. I really need some advice because I do not know how to go about this situation. I really want a relationship with someone and no more friends with benefits.
The last freinds with benefits wanted my to have a fivesome with his buddies and the one before that wanted me to pay for a hotel and its just a continous cycle of guys not doing anything for me.

[chandra]

Insist that you are treated with RESPECT

And don't settle for anything less!

People will only treat us the way we ALLOW them too

If a guy just wanted casual sex with me I would tell him to go fly a kite!

They cannot always tell which girls are decent and up for it and those who are not - so they will try their luck with anyone!

So MAKE SURE YOU GIVE GUYS THE MESSAGE THAT YOU ARE NOT JUST A PEICE OF MEAT.....and that to get you - it takes ALOT

Know what you want and how you want to be treated AND DON'T SETTLE FOR ANYTHING LESS!!!!

[Gina D]

I'm sorry you feel so crappy and let guys take advantage of you. Focus on yourself, your studies, your work, interests. Do not let guys have the upper hand. You are the one in control. If you're tired of having friends with benefits, it's a good idea to stop, right?
I would stop letting yourself be a victim in your situation, and start taking more responsibility and control of your life.

Don't be so hard on yourself, I'm sure there are plenty of guys who would love to call your their girlfriend.