women's history crossword help?

[Taylor L]

A term to describe a respectable woman in Victorian society. It was often a racially coded term for white, privileged women, and implied that such women were due gentlemanly respect. Poor, immigrant and black women have often been denied this moniker, and the special on-a-pedestal treatment that it often accords a privileged woman.
4 Letter word

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A is included

[te144]

Stumps me. All I can think of is ma'am.

[maxmom]

lady.

Back then "lady' was a term that was not used for the female gender over all, but implied a social status.