Mom won't let me have a Myspace?

[GoneSurfing]

For some strange reason, Myspace infuriates her, and I have no idea why. I casually brought up the fact that I was making a myspace the other day and she kept repeating "absoloutely not." I asked why, and she said, "because I just don't want you to have one" ...I'm 15, and never post pictures online or do anything dangerous, and just want one as a way to keep in touch with my friends. I told her I would keep the account private. How do I convince my mom that it won't be the apocalypse if I make a myspace? (I would make one behind her back, but I've been cursed with a horrible concise and have zero lying ability... plus, she can check my website history, so I can't really lie)

[Rigo6751]

How about facebook?You wouldn't be technically lying there, and there are security controls up the wazoo, and they're currently implementing plans to limit minors ability to talk to over 18s. And it's second popular behind myspace, which has a community that isn't.... the most brilliant of the bunch and hopelessly lacks design skills.Hard to help with a reasonable answer when your mom isn't being logical or reasonable.

[koolkid11]

tell her about teh added sucurity, you can have teh profile not only set to private but you have to acccept peopel who want to add you, you can also set it so all comments and msgs have to be accepted before they will be posted.you dotn have to post pictures of you or your house, who you see on myspace or come incontact with is entirerly upto you.that it is the safest thing you can think of.good luck

[typicalnotme3570]

Smart Mom. She loves you!! She is not doing this to be mean. She knows the dangers of having too much info out there. My parents were really strict with me and I hated it. After I had children I realized that they did it for my own good.

[SorrowLikeSmiles]

Well I'm sure she is just worried about you... believe me the internet can be a very dangerous tool. At your age, I started meeting boys offline... and out of the 7-10 guys i've met... i would have to say 2 did very bad things with me, and the others really screwed me up. Because of this, my boyfriend doesn't want me having a myspace. I can understand where they are coming from. There really is no way you can convince her. Parents are just out to protect the heck out of us... even if it doesn't work...

[Erika0023]

With good reason! The worst thing with myspace is that it will absolutely ruin your computer with viruses if you're not careful. And at 15 believe me, dont risk it. Myspace has a lot of sneaky ways of putting viruses in your computer and they are so bad it can sometimes be impossible to remove them even when you re-image the machine (delete everything and start new). I've seen first hand with my teen sisters, multiple times and my husband always comes to the rescue (he's a computer genious but also HATES myspace). I would highly suggest www.blogger.com as a much safer way to communicate with friends, etc. Good luck!

[Freedom4487]

Get it anyways.Then then you're done for the night and know she'll check the history go to START right on internet- go to internet properties and delete cookies and clear history for 2 days. That should throw her off your trail and my hubby says it great for hiding porn too...lol...

[alicynN]

my space is my drama space...you don't want all that gossip and picture posting b.s.!believe me, I'm 27 and last year i canceled my my space because of all the bullshit and look at how old i am...your intentions might not be bad but I also have 2 nieces that are in high school and myspace caused them social problems too,its not worth it to keep in touch,just message each other or something

[maleinaHeart]

i think youe mom is just very protective of you witch is a good thing but you just need to sit her down and tell her that you know the ruls about not talking to strangers not going to any web sits your not suppose to be in like above your age chat rooms and tell her that your a mature 15 year old teenager and your grades are good in school, and that your trying to ask for permisson to have a myspace so when your on the computer she can be there to check and see what your doing if she wants

[Blackbeard1956]

The same way she's fallen for the fear mongering media hype that precious little snowflakes are being led astray by older guys who can manipulate anyone like a puppet on a string, she thinks you're just as naive as she is. She's so afraid of the real world, so unsure of herself and her ability to protect herself and avoid becoming a victim, again, that she's projected her desperate and impotent weakness onto you. In simplest terms, she's scared and she thinks you should be too. There's probably no way to convince her that the media has lied to her, that there is no plague of internet predators searching for underage girls, luring them into private meetings with promises of liquor and good times, that such things are extremely rare and that most people are kindhearted and obedient to the law, that you're more likely to be abused by your own family member or a boy your own age than anyone you'd meet online, and she especially will never understand that you are a mature and capable young person who can sense when something is wrong, avoid trouble, block anyone who seems odd, and isn't so desperate for attention, drugs, sex or freedom that you'd take a stupid risk just for a good time. She might do that, but you wouldn't. And that's ultimately what she's afraid of, herself.