Acting Out 5 year old at School and Home?

[cyndie0211ny]

I have 3 boys 1 of which is living home he is 5 yo.... I am a stay at home mom and my husband works on the road (driving truck)

I dont know what to do!!! he is not listening, you tell him something he does the complete opposite, put him in time out he gets up, spank him an he will cry forever... I cant get him to sit down for a entire meal but he will sit for a entire cartoon...
Take him to the store an he is wanting everything!!! which half the time we leave the store with a child who is screaming cause we didnt get him what he wanted...

NOW it is going on at school... I have recieved calls that he is disrupting the class with noises, hand gestures, tapping his feet... He acts as if he dont want to be there, wont do his work, wont participate with the class... He has even been in trouble for getting physical with a student (pushing them) They have taken away his playground time and has made him eat lunch in class w/ the teacher...

Please someone help me understand
I have tried the Dr's an they have stated to see the local social worker
There has been no new changes but this has gone on in this school since he started... He went to Pre-K last yr and had no issues so that is why it is so difficult for me to understand why this is going on

[joyhappyjoy]

If he wasn´t like this before, something must have changed and he´s acting out to call attention for himself. Even negative attention is better than no attention. Try to figure out what triggered it. Did his father just leave and maybe he misses him? Instead of going head to head in arguments with a 5 year old, try to be more firm. Talk to him and tell him there´s new rules. And the new rule is one wwarning then a consecuence. But don´t threaten if you won´t fall through. Punishment can be no cartoon. No dessert. No playing outside. Don´t engage in whatever fight over authority with him or he wins. Take deep breaths and let most of the things go, just explain to him why it´s wrong, etc.

[S.R.S. 2008]

I would knock my kids little butt off his body if he was doing this. You say he cried "Forever" if you spank him? Hey, no kid has ever died from crying. Dont put him on medications or anything like that. DONT let him act that way in the store. take him out to the car and give him something to cry about. tell him that he will be going straight to bed once you get home if he asks for one thing at the store.

[xodancer4life21]

I wouldn't put him in Special Ed, but I would take him to the doctor and see if he has any mentally brain challenged sort of problems... I was kind of like that when I was younger but my problem was underwear when I was 5. I didn't want to wear them and I would scream and walk around the house naked for hours... so my mom took me into the doctors and they said it wasn't anything mentally but still they sent me to a type of doctor that like get's inside your head and finds out what is causing the problem... and today I'm am a healthy person with no problems!

[Laura P]

i have a 6 year old son that expressed alot of that same behavior. They put my son in special classes(like special ed but not exactly) so he can get more one on one help and it hasdone alot of help. he still acts up at times and doesnt listen all the time but it is alot better than before. also, your son is young, but you may need counseling for him (he may have behavioral problems. you can have a specialist/dr evaluate him for behavioral problems, add and other behavior type problems and they may be able to suggest options and treatment. hope this helps