How do I get them to STOP it?

[electrickshadow2255]

I need some advice here.Im 22, almost 23, and I still live at home because I have a daughter and I go to school. Now, I KNOW I am VERY lucky to be able to have something like this...my mom works her @$$ off EVERY day to keep this house together...I understand that and I respect that part of this equation. However, no matter how much I respect what she does and goes through every day, as a person I can never respect her, because EVERY day she throws spitbombs at me, verbal abuse like nails...My daughter was conceived through rape(and let me get this straight right now for those of you, I do NOT consider her a "rape baby" or look at her any different because of it) but my mother tells me all the time "You wanted it, you liked it...you told him Ooh Baby Give Me More". And I know, I am overweight...so when Im not working on it she calls me a 'beached whale', or when I am working on it she tells me "Oh go hole up in your dungeon again"............................................ ....When I take more than the 4 classes she knows is required for school, she tells me "Youre a lousy mother...you never do anything with this little girl. And when you finally do move, shes mine...Ive already gone under the carpet and you have no rights".Just the other day she called me an a*hole because I went to the movies with my friend...yet, shes got guys who come in and out of here...I dont know where she gets em from, theyre not boyfriends, but they dont pay any rent, some of them smoke weed, and most dont contribute to food either(I dont pay into the house, I understand that Im no different than them, but she runs short on money every month, and every month WHO picks up the slack? Yours truly. But thats not viewed as any contribution)I personally couldnt give Adam from Eve about these people she has coming through here, EXCEPT the fact that they all see how much she keeps this house and family together like glue, but none of them see how emotionally shes got every one of us toabsolute ribbons...so they give her the 'pat pat, good mommy' routine and us the lecture about respect. I KNOW Ive got it easy compared to a LOT of other people...and I DO value everything she DOES...but I CAN NOT value who she IS until something changes. Im in no means to live on my own right now(btw where I am moving for the job I want she tells me "theyre never gonna want a whale. Give your silly little fantasy up and grow up"), and besides I wouldnt want things to be like this even after I move....So....WHAT do I DO???Thanks. (=

[HighVoltage7387]

Tell her to shut her ass up and leave you alone. I would seriously call her a piece of shit and get out of there.

[benny2417]

The first step is to relise that your mother is not perfect, and never will be.

[Lashes7108]

WOW YOU NEED TO TALK TO UR MOM AND ASK HER WHAT DOES SHE HAVE AGAINST YOU MAYBE SHES GETTING TIRED OF YOU AND YOUR BABY...LIFES A STRUGGLE AND IF U WANNA BE CONTENT MAKE THE SACRIFICE OF GETTING A JOB OR AS MANY AS U NEED TO SUPPORT URSELF AND UR BABY =] GOOD LUCK!

[cinnamon61214460]

shes down right rude.. work hard to get out of their asap.. you dont deserve that and she will probably never stop

[shadow_dragonblood]

That's horrible.My parents were both like that too.Find somewhere else to live A.S.A.P.You don't deserve to be treated like that.

[GLover3336]

Get out of there! Sounds like your mother is very abusive and has power trips to keep you down...Is she supporting the household because she feels bad for her granddaughter or is she doing it because she genuinely cares about the both of you? I think this is something you should sit down with her and ask...Let her know the things she says are hurtful and need to stop....Especially if she talks to you like that around your daughter...imagine the disrespect your mother is showing your daughter to have towards you in the future....is that the kind of environment you'd want your child in?

[ForlornHope0767]

perhaps you just need to grow a thicker skin, weather the storm, get a decent job and move out...

[cowboyboots_129854]

find/rent the movie, 'STELLA' , with Bette Midler..some night when you both can get some time alone. order some food, put the movie in and watch it together....

[pari4860]

well she is angry because you have a baby and have school to finish.. but where is the child's father?? ask him for money...