I am home schooling my daughter for the rest of this year?

[who took the tape?]

When it comes to math, I have to re-learn some of the things she is learning in order to explain them to her. When I don't have the immediate answer, or have to work my way through a problem, or have to ask her what we did the last time, she SCREAMS at me and acts like I'm stupid.

I have kept my cool and for the first 4 weeks I would say I would help her when she could be civil to me and I would walk away. She then went through a phase where she would tell me I was walking away from my problems "like I always do. Real great mom! What am I supposed to do now?" I would either not respond or tell her that I will not solve a problem with someone who is abusive to me.

She had pretty much stopped the nonsense, but she is back to it. Does anyone have any ideas of how to handle this. Please, if you are planning a personal attack, keep it.
She is 14.

[Tom G]

If she is being homeschooled because she didn't like school, threaten her with a return to school. If it was your choice ot homeschool her, best thing I can tell you is to take control over her, don't let her scream louder than you, punish her and make her do extra assignments when she acts up and when she's good and you get work done, reward her. Just tell her it's been a while since you did this stuff.

[Ana b]

I agree with the pp's about "deschooling" give her some time to just let it all out and to change the perspective of homeschooling. Also you might want to find a group that does exchanges. It seems that you have problems with math and someone else might be able to help you with that. If you have something that you are strong in then you can share that with someone else. Plus there's nothing wrong with finding a toutor to help. Just because you are a HS mom, doesnt mean that you have to do ALL the teaching.

[renee70466]

How about a different math curriculum? We switched to Math U See and my daughter does her lessons by watching the video and then practicing. My problem was that i can do the work just not explain it. There are other math programs with DVDs to teach besides this one but so far it's the best we've found.

Their site is www.mathusee.com They will send you a free DVD so that you can check the program out and once I ordered it we had it within a week. The free DVD is basic stuff like addition but there's an assessment test there also so that you can find out what book you need for her.

God Bless!

[amyhubb3]

I do not have any answers for you unfortunately, but I am right there with you. My daughter is 13 1/2 and I too am homeschooling her for the rest of the year. There are days she is happy but most days she is moody and uncooperative. We are still trying to work out a schedule and a curriculum that works for us both. It is a difficult age under the best of circumstances and you should keep telling yourself that she is venting her frustrations on you. She will look back at this time and be thankful she has a Mom who sacrificed for her benefit.
(on the bad days, we just drop everything and go to lunch or the park and just try to reconnect) Send me an email if you want to vent yourself! Good luck.