my 13 year old hates us?

[la_vintage_chick]

Let him know that its great he want to make his own decision. However he has to take the good with the bad for example if he decided he doesn't want to go to school today he is expected to explain to the school why he was away and is also expected to take what ever you decide is fair punishment same if he gets himself into trouble at school, doesn't pass exams, comes home after his curfew. Letting him deal with consequence show him what responsibility includes and setting you own punishment for skipping school and getting into trouble etc is another way of letting him know you do care and have interest ( you need to telling him this often and punishment is just one way of backing it up (teen easily feel you say it but don't mean it))(this is my advice a some one in their late teens) oh and don't decide what he has responsibility over cause thats creates more problems

[KashH]

im thirteen myself and let me tell you he needs girls to talk to that are his age so i reccomend lots of marijuana and sex biooootch

[mCfLyRcKmYeArDrUmS]

What a 'lil rebel

[mastermind5667]

i went through the same problem when i was 12-13.

[froglady972]

Ahhh.. the joys of teen years. Boys especially. If the teen years could be compared to anything it would be the terrible two's. Its a time when they are feeling older and "I want to do it myself" time. Take a breath mom. Teen boys are going through a trying time where they are wanting to fit in, make decisions, and still be ok in their parents eyes. Your opinion means the world to them. They don't want be seen as babies but also are not sure what to expect. They will make poor choices and then really grand ones. Imagine having all the new hormones, esp testosterone, coursing thru your veins. It awsome and scarey at the same time.Communicate with the school and see what is happening there. If there is no major occurance, communication is the way to go. If peer pressure is the issue, sit down with school and child and see if there isn't something that can be done. Peer influence now can really be essential in the growth of your young man. Again, communication. Let him know that you love him and are there to support him.Also you may have to give him some room to grow. Giving him responsibility is great. But with responsibility comes consequences. If he makes a poor choice, he will need to know what he has done wrong and deal with it. Running away is not always an option. Take this one step at a time. When he left, he could have gone somewhere else. He went to your sisters. That is great!!He is safe and you know where he is. No pressure right now. For you or him. Get together with your husband and decide how to handle this. Take each day as a step. The world will not end because he missed some school. Take a moment to reflect. If its hard to reflect, get a paper and pencil and write down the goals you would like to see achieved. One would be to find out what is going on at school. Another might be for him to make and accomplish his own tasks. These are examples. And don't feel silly. Moms have been going thru this since time started. You are a good mom or you wouldn't be concerned.I had a son that would run away and come back in a day or two and we would have terrible fights. I was concerned that he might turn out poorly. He didn't. He graduated top of his class and decided himself to enter the military. The teen years are the hardest, make no mistake. Now is the time to take a deep breath, step back and re-evaluate. Talk with your husband. Put your heads together and see if you cannot come up with an answer. No child comes with a manual. Your other children may be completely different. Take each day and decision as it comes. Talk with your son. He is going through something right now and is having a hard time communicating it to you. Be supportive, but firm. You are a great mother. Just be there for him. God bless.

[Bethy4]

It is called being a teenager, he doesn't hate you his hormones are all enraged and his brain cells are just starting to fully connect. He is also trying to find himself, okay out of school for a week, he better find himself before next week starts (well if he were my child), hormonal or not, school is a must. I agree with your husband leave him there and let life get a hold to him. This too shall pass, it is a part of growing up. God Bless.

[chattiny8236]

you can often have a family talk weekly so that you can interact with kids better