How can I punish my 9 year old son I've tried grounding, taking his computer and xbox no weekends out?

[Cynthia7856]

Nothing seems to be getting through to him. He is constantly forgetting his homework teacher says he is disruptive in class and won't pay attention. He complains about going to school and doesn't hand in most of his work. What can I do to punish him?

[MumtotheTerribleThree0918]

Have you talked to him about what may be going on at school? It sounds like there's some kind of problem, either with his schoolwork or socially. Have you sat down and worked with him on a way of organising his work and his thoughts better, and done some homework with him to see if he's struggling with some of the work?If there's nothing wrong to account for his behaviour then I'd go zero tolerance with privileges. No entertainment whatsoever until he learns that privileges need to be earned with responsibility.But it really sounds like you need to do some digging to see what's going on. Good luck!

[rachel9329]

pick him up from school. make sure he has homework, then make sure it is done and put in his bag. Sit in on his class till he begins to behave. Can you find the reason for this change? Is the work too hard? Too easy? Is he being bullied. Start there rather than straight to punishing, try to find why this is happening

[parisaa]

spank him-im not saying beat the hell out of him but jeeze he needs to know that you are in charge not him and what you tell tell him he neds to do needs to happen or there will be consequences other than a few hours with no xbox

[EeyoresTail]

He may have something PHYSICALLY wrong with him. have u taken him to the doctor and had him tested for ADD or ADHD. That is very common these days, and if he tests positive for either of these, he may be able to have meds that can help him focus so he is able to perform better in school. he may also have a learning disability of somekind and he feels he needs to disrupt class because he needs extra attention. Maybe you could try to get to the root of the problem instead of just punishing him.

[ninya99]

The time has to fit the crime! He sounds like he is having some problems, maybe emotional (any bullying going on u don't know about?, probs at home?), but punishing him at home does not really fit this crime. His teacher needs to set up something at school, like doind work he hasn't finished for 10mins of lunch or something. Boys typically are more disruptive in class, lack attention and don't finish work. My son is nearly 12 and he still "hates school", but I support what I can, I became involved in classroom help, I remind him every morning about homework etc, and help him every afternoon with it. When he was really bad at remembering to bring his homework home I started making my own and made him do that instead....he still handed it in, the teacher knew what was happening and eventually he started bringing his real stuff home. Love and cherish him, don't punish him.

[JudgeJudy3924]

Why the F*** are you so bent on punishment? It doesnt work because he doesnt need it ..he needs to get to the root of his issues with converstaion and one on one time with a parent. Listen to your child withoput judgement teach him the skills he needs to express himself..thats your job..guidance and support when your child needs you. Kids dont have the skills to tell you whats bothering them they dont know why they hurt inside...you have to find that out and teach him to deal in a constructive manner

[TEM]

www.loveandlogic.complease, please, please...read some of these books...check your library. DO what they say...it will work, but don't rule out ADD/ADHD. My husband has recently been diagnosed, and now wonders what he might have been able to accomplish if he was taught coping skills in his youth rather than fighting to learn these things in his 40s.

[MuhammadA]

Speak to him nicely..again and again if he dose not lisent do cane him not till bleeding, just to teach him a lesson.

[rickreneau9622]

Punishment can be a good thing, but sometimes a kid needs to hear some encouragement. I am working as a tutor to a 12 year old who has made some big mistakes lately, and his parents have laid it on thick, as is their right. He was grounded, no computer, no friends, etc...and he still acted out, the punishment made him mader, and the parents had nothing else to take. I wrote him a note saying "You have heard all week long what you have done wrong, but every once in a while you need to hear what your doing right". The kid has been better behaved ever since I gave him the note, towards everyone. Sometimes everybody needs to get a little prospective, try for one day, not coddling, but reminding him of what he is doing good, rather than focusing on the negitive...he won't forget what he did wrong, but he may reset to try to add more to the good list. Also, remember, none of us have ever reached perfection in school, even 4.0 gpa's occasionally forget an assignment or roughhouse with friends, I know I did often, pick your battles so he doesn't start tuning out what your saying when it comes to the big things.