what's a good way to persuade parents that I'm responsible?

[wendy0548]

I'm already 17. I do chores (if they ask), do my homework, and clean after myself after eating most of the time.yet I can't leave the house to walk ONE blockI can't wear contactsI dont really get to visit my friend unless its for HWI can't ride a bike to community college (less than an hour walk away) this summer for classes ("just ask some aunt to drive you")the WHOLE family sides w/ themI live in the "good" part of oakland; any advice would help; thanks

[Tsuki3166]

I'm 59 years old, and my daughter just turned 20 in April. I'm SCARED TO DEATH when she wanders off on her own, cuz she's so cute, and there are so many perverts around here, and they just seem to pick her out of the crowd! We live in Sacramento. Believe me, it's no picnic to get raped, or robbed, and I just want her to be safe. She still thinks "she knows it all" but she doesn't, and she won't accept that I have seen things that scare the crap out of me, and that there is no safe haven anywhere! Your parents sound a little too overprotective tho, but families know each other, so maybe they know something you or I don't know. Just bide your time, and count your blessings that they do at least care about your welfare, and don't just let you out on your own and don't care.

[lesterlee]

It must be very frustrating for you to feel this way. As a parent myself I must say I too am a little overprotective cause there are so many crazy people out there. Its one thing to be responsible, but its always hard for parents to cut the apron strings. Just know your parents aren't overcontrolling because they are mean..its because they love and care about you. I would suggest sitting down with them and having a real mature discussion about it, tell them you understand and respect their concern, but with their trust you need to grow and learn. Talk about ways and ideas together about assuring your safety and such this will help them alot. Start by making a deal with them to let you go wherever, call them when you get there and then call them when you will be leaving to come home,as they grow more comfortable with this, they will be less controlling. I am very much an adult but still call my parents to say I have gotten home safely from a trip and such...its respectful and gives them a piece of mind.This process won't happen over night...but it will eventually...work with your parents and not against them..they will be impressed with your mature approach to the matter.

[aNgeLiNa-JuLiA_]

Talk to your parents sincerely and tell them how this problem affect you. Tell them your opinion and tell them why you considered yourself responsible. Tell all ^_^And if you want, tell them you appreciate their caring but you don't want to be dependent. Don't forget to tell them how you feel.