What should my Daughters punishment be?

[zaza4891]

I like that she is reading! At least she is not staring at the TV or playing video games or talking on the phone.Sit and talk. Tell her how important her school work is and even though you like the fact that she is reading, she needs to do her work. She probably got mad because she may have been at a really great part of the book. I know I can NOT put a book down that is holding my interest. I have been known to stay up for 20 hours straight just to finish a book. I can relate to her.

[TrishJPAJewishPastafarian6987]

If it were anybody else - your brother; your neighbor; whoever - what would you do? You'd expect them to pay for it, right?She needs to do the same - it's not about receiving punishment, it's about taking responsibility for one's own actions. If she receives an allowance, dock it (enough to sting, but not enough to make her completey go without - she'll just have to tighten her belt fun-wise for a while). If she does any other type of work where she's paid (baby-sitting, etc.) make it clear that you expect to be paid, and set up a schedule of payments. If she doesn't get an allowance, or have any other source of funds, then extra chores, or other appropriate responsibility to "pay" the debt is important.If I were you, though, I'd be a LOT more concerned as to WHY "several projects" were overdue in the first place. How did it get to this point? She's not an adult - she's a kid. You need to be keeping up with what her homework is, and making SURE it's done on a daily basis. If it's not done, then nothing else happens either - no phone, no TV, no computer, no friends - NOTHING until the homework is done. The bedpost is the LEAST of your worries right now. Fix your DAUGHTER first.

[yamomma]

you need to beat her ass the get something to fix the crack and make her fix it. tell her if it aint the correct way she will have to start over

[Starsclds]

I would first be concerned with why she is so far behind on her school work. Is she overbooked in the extra activity department? Is she struggling in school, and doesn't know how to ask for help, or even why she is struggling? I would talk to her about the school work, and find out the root of the problem. If she is overwhelmed and not sure where to turn or how to get out from under it that may be where the anger came from. Not that it is okay, and that needs to be addressed as well. My daughter has a hard time with school work due to Learning Disabilities and ADD, and at times when she is behind, it comes out as temper on totally unrealated things. She also will do something else rather than homework, because the homework seems so overbearing it is easier just to find another activity like reading for pleasure. Dont' over react about the bed, get to the root of the problems in school first!

[Sufi1901]

not allowed in your bedroom for 3 months?has to do yardwork etc to earn money to repair the bed?take away some ipod or computer or cell phone priviledges?and be sure to work on the communication part.

[chiefsfan]

Take your daughter to the store where the replacement piece would come from or the person who would fix it, keep her with you during the entire process of fixing it, then you pay it in front of her and hand her the invoice for her to pay you back make sure to tell her whatever you spend to fix the bed she will pay back to you through allowance or if you don't do allowance through additional chores outside of the ones you make her already do. Give her a dollar amount for how much each chore is for, and tell her until you are paid off she is grounded, no tv no friends no cell phone if she has one.

[rachel5852]

grounded and has to pay for repairs

[jhorcock1]

Make her pay for the broken post, ground her, and if she does something like this again while she is grounded give her a spanking.