What should my Daughters punishment be?

[mark6060]

My daughter was supposed to be doing her homework but she was reading a novel instead. (she was overdue on several projects and had tons of homework). So, I took her book away. She had fit when i took her book. She came into my room (in anger) and pushed the post on my bed causing the post to crack on the bottom. The bed is an expensive cherry Thomasville piece and it has a 3 inch crack in the post. What do you think is an appropriate punishment for this?Oh....She is 13 years old

[Heather7372]

Take her allowance to pay for it, get em where it hurts! I think that'd be better than grounding.

[isaacsmommy1635]

she shouldn't be allowed to go anywhere, do anything ( talk on the phone, go out with friends, watch movies, read ect.) until she catches up all of her homework and does she get an allowance? if she does you should make her pay you for the damage she caused she is old enough to learn about responsibility and cause and effect...you break it, you buy it.

[littlegirlie1219]

I'm 12 you should give her a very well good grounding.and she can not get a allowance so she can earn your money back for you bed.i hope i help

[RockingMySox]

-comes from a 14 yr old...-hmhmhm...reading never hurts, true dat. BUT...being irresponsible, i suppose....hmhmhm...ground her? for a week? or a few days. idk. oh, most definitely lecture her...bores us to death, so yeah.

[tyinkerbellsp]

OK WE AS PARENTS TEND TO REACT AT THERE VERY MOMENT. THE FIRST THING TO DO IS IM SURE WHAT U DID WAS SEND HER TO HER ROOM. THAN ONCE YOU HAVE BOTH CALMED DOWN, THAN TAKE AWAY THINGS SHE LIKES THE CELL PHONE IF SHE HAS ONE NO FRIENDS NO NOTHING THAN TOMRROW FOUND OUT IF THAT PIECE CAN BE REPLACED ARE FIXED THAN THE REAL PUNISHMENT COMES IF YOU WERE GIVING HER ALLOWANCE THAN MK. HER PAY FOR THE REPAIRS . I'M SURE U WILL FIRST SO U WONT HAVE TO WAIT WEEKS ARE MONTHS BUT LET HER PAY FOR WHAT SHE DID. NOW THE BOOK THING TELL HER ITS JUST A BOOK AND THERE WAS NO NEED FOR HER TO GET THAT EXICTED OVER A BOOK BUT MK. SURE THAT YOU SPEAK WITH YOUR DAUGHTER IN A CALM TONE

[tomesphotos]

She DOES need to be punished but also keep in mind she is probably hormanal at 13. What I have had to do for my 14 year old is make him use an agenda at school, He has to write down all his assugnments for each class and he has to get the teacher to sign it, and the teacher can also write notes about his behavior if they want. It is a daily thing. If the agenda is not brought to school or does not come home then he is grounded for that day from everything, if he brings it and there are no bad reports from the teachers then he is free to do as he wants after his homework is done, if the homework is not finished then he is basically grounded untill it is, and he also gets grounded for the day for bad notes from the teachers in his agends. It is strict but it works, and he does not like it but it really has helped him to do better in his classes and me to know what is going on.

[KarenM]

1st try to set rules (easier said than done). After she gets done with her homework then she can do what she wants. She should pay for the bed. Not as much as the bed really costs but to teach her responsibility and everything is not free. I know she cant get a job now but she can do odd jobs for neighbors or extra things around the house. Make a list of things to do and the $ amounts and have her pick what she wants to do. Don't forget to add how much you want her to earn/pay back for the bed. Hopefully next time she will think next time she gets mad a breaks something. Good Luck! Hope this helps.

[Sharon6267]

I approve of the reading thing...at least she was doing something productive...however you need to teach her how to control her anger in a positive way. She should be punished for acting in an uncontrolled manner and being destructive is not tolerable.However, praise her for reading a book instead of playing video games or talking on the phone.Speak in a good tone and take her allowance away or give her extra chores.Good Luck.

[kchood_20025754]

First I would punish her for getting behind on her schoolwork. No TV until it is finished. No Phone, computer (unless it is specifically for school work). For the temper toward you, I would take away her friend privilages for at least a week, where she can't go out with her friends or to after school functions. For the crack I would take her allowance for at least a month (sounds harsh, yep maybe, but it'll teach her that it's not appropriate to break other peoples things that don't belong to you) and I would give her extra chores every Saturday for the month this takes away her opportunity to go out with her friends to the movies ect. Give her chores she normally wouldn't do like scrubbing the toilet, washing dishes, etc, so that her whole day she won't have time to even think about a book. If you don't stop her now at 13, she's going ot get worse and next time she's seriously liable to knock you down the stairs, hit your, or hurt someone else out of her anger. ALSO, sit down and talk to her about it, most likely at the kitchen table and tell her what her punishment(s) will be and why. Then instead of arguing about it after you have made yourself clear, go about whatever you need to be doing. Hopefully next time she'll think before she does it again.