Brother In Law troubles?

[ardisiachic16]

I actually met my brother in law before I met my fiance. Actually my bro in law asked me out before my fiance. I turned him flat out down! I didnt like druggies. A year later I met my fiance and we have been so happy. We have started a family...we love and respect each other. We actually really dont fight too much. We live with his mother who we take care because she is paralyzed. Well the brother moved back home and is making me feel soo uneasy. He follows me around the house...he listens to my phone convos...watches my fiance and I hug and kiss...its creepy. Ever since he has moved back home, my fiance and i fight more...over his brother! He wont get a job...he leaves his kid alone forcing me to watch him(im 35 weeks pregnant and have a 3yr old). I dont have time to watch someone else's child. I have overheard him telling my fiance that he should drink more ..trying to influence him.,...ugh I dont know what to do. We cant throw him out cuz of his child....what to do?

[sammy3256]

Maybe you need to contact your own family and stay with them for a few days while you think things over. If your finance wants all this in his life, then while you are with your family he can see what it is really like.

I think while you are with your family you need to look into public housing assistance and see if you can get into subsidized housing or for your brotherinlaw/his child. Then contact his mothers doctor and say you are having a baby and they need to get personal care and housekeeping care givers for his mother. You do not have to be going through this at all.

Do not go back until all this is in place and has been taken care of.

[Ellie]

Why on earth did you let him move in??

Whose house is this??

You should tell your fiance exactly how you feel and get him to sort this out........you do not need to deal with this when you have another baby due in 5 weeks.

I would tell my fiance that if the brother does not move out then you will and leave him and his brother and mother to get on with it.

Remember you are not married to him yet and if he doesn't sort it out then I would call off the wedding. He needs to stand up and be a man and take care of you and his children.
He should think himself lucky that you are willing to take care of his mother as well as 2 children...........never mind another one that is not yours!!!

Tell him to get some backbone!!!