would you do the same?

[midgetqueen129]

i was talking with this guy that i have known for a long time and we were talkin about dating. he said he doesnt want to be with ne one right now because he is leaving for the marines in september. we dated a while ago and i've never stopped loving him. he told me that he doesnt want to leave me here to wait for him but he still loves me. in the time we have been broke ip i have watched him date and we went through this time that he pretended to hate me because he knew that i missed him. we have been close now for sometime i guess because he knows that it doesnt matter how he acts i still care. i kno i sound like i just dont want to move on but i tried and every time i go back to missing him.i really think that if we got back together now it would be just as hard. i came up with the plan to stay single and juist be his friend. its hard because i kno he knows what i'm doing but i hope that in being the one who is there for him he will see that i can respect him and love him both at once

[Sonjaya379514]

Probably, but I've never been in this situation before.

[Liz8705]

yeah, its hard, because he's having harder missions...my boyfriend is a marine and in iraq...i miss him and sometimes its tough, just because he's frustrated that he can't be here with me, so maybe he's wanting to avoid anything that might make being a marine harder...keep your head up, you're doing the right thing.

[BonzaiBetty]

You are setting yourself up for disappointment, you never know what sort of things he will go through in the marines, or how much he will change as a result of his experiences. He could easily end up with some skank he meets over the internet at any time during his deployment, and that would leave you high and dry. Do not waste any more time with this person, because it doesnt even seem 50% good.

[juslockn8154]

I would continue to be friendly with him and stay in contact when he deploys, however, I would also enjoy my young single life as he is doing!

[ACE3553]

im kinda doing the same thing with the girl i love inly we never dated and were only 14hope it works for you

[Mel9847]

Sounds like he's trying to be realistic with you. He's leaving soon and he doesn't want to see you hurt. Just back off and respect his wishes. IF its meant to be, then it will happen eventually.

[Katie7532]

telll him how you feel.

[EvelynG]

I think that it's great that you love him but I don't think it is healthy to put your life on hold for a man that is still dating around. I tried doing the same with an ex and in the end, I ended up feeling more hurt that how I felt int he 1st place. He's probably just trying to be nice by saying that he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you to be honest. When you want to be with someone, nothing... including distance, can keep you away from that person. I feel like your feelings aren't being returned so go out and date other people. If you're not ready for that, just go out with your friends. Talk to your friendn about how you're feeling because the best way to get over something is to talk about it and over time, you'll feel a lot better

[Indie6980]

You are a very smart woman! You've answered your own question in my opinion. If ou really love him stick with it and see how it goes. I'm in a long distance marriage my husband is in Iraq and has been for 3 years. Love and military life can be difficult but honesty and communication are major. If you want to date someone else be honest with yourself and with him as long as you do that you'll either end up with one or two things. A really good friend or a loving relationship. Good Luck!