Marriage Seperation?

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My wife of five years told me 6 days ago she wants to seperate. She says she still loves me and I am not really doing anything wrong, her concern is she "doesn't know who she is". She let it slip about 2 weeks ago that she had an appointment with a therapist. She has had Gastric Bypass and said it was for that. I asked if they had Marriage Counseling and if maybe we could go to a few sessions to make sure things were ok. She said she'd look into it. We have had a few obsticiles since we have been married we bought a house together and have had maybe a year or two in it alone. We took in a friend of hers family after the Hurricans, our niece after her mother was incarcerated, then my sister-in-law when she got out twice. Then we have had my mother-in-law with us for over a year. I just wanted time with my wife so recently I started asking her to spend time with me just us and it never really worked out. Well the last time I asked her if we could she tells me she is off on a
certain day but has to get her moms old house ready for her to move back in and then she is moving out soon after. I was heart broken I asked why and pleaded with her to stay. She has said she needs time and space, and even though I want only to be with her I'm trying to give her what she is asking for and praying we can work things out. She has agreed to go to Marriage Counseling after she has moved out and gotten settled. I have prayed everyday since that we are able to get things to a point where she will come back. We have agreed we will spend time together periodically and all I can do is hope for the best. My question is how can I know if this will help us get back together ? Or should I try something else I love her and have told her repeatedly and she says it back and says she will miss me. What are the chances we will be able to get things back. Also is the Gastric bypass a potential factor because even her mom says she has changed since having it done.

[christcjc]

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[Twisted Fairy]

Running away from the problem is not going to solve anything! Explain to her again, as I'm sure you have, what you did to us about how much of your marriage seems to have been sharing your home with others..and while this is commendable, it makes it difficult to really get to better know each other and develop better communication when other people are always around! Try to convince her to try marriage counseling...or at least individual counseling to help her "find herself". Continue to keep the lines of communication open and hopefully she'll open up to you!

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