I went through his divorce papers and I found out something very suprising?

[LuvTasha]

My boyfriend had been married once before which was 11 years ago. Two weeks ago, I asked him if I could see his divorce papers just out of curiousity and he did let me see them without hesitation. In the divorce papers, it stated that he was the plaintiff and his ex-wife was the defendant. As I continued reading the divorce papers, I came across a certain paragraph that took me by surprise, it said that the plaintiff (my boyfriend) treated the defendant (his ex-wife) with extreme cruelty and grievious emotional and physical abuse. I then confronted him about that certain paragraph, and he told me that his lawyer at the time told him to let his ex-wife say wanted she wanted to say about him and that the person who made his divorce papers made that mistake. He also told me that his ex-wife had lied to her lawyer when she said that my boyfriend abused her emotionally and physically. My question is, is it possible that my boyfriend could be lying or is he telling me the truth?

[bye_bye508]

Thats a difficult situation but all I can say if you want to stay then learn how to defend yourself just in case. You don't know his ex wife so she could be lying so she can get what she wants maybe even money out of divorce but at the same time be careful and learn how protect yourself because you never know.

[Brittany M]

red flag.....i would believe what is written on court documents...

[Cribber]

It is possible he is lying. It is possible he is telling the truth. I do know they say weird things in a divorce. I know a guy whose wife accused him of being gay. He was going to protest, but they told him to leave it be, because she claimed they didn't have a sexual relationship, it made the divorce clear faster without usual separation period. On the other hand if you have any indication even one weird feeling he could get violent, then get out.

[catk]

I guess the question is how long have you been with him and has he displayed any kind of behavior of that kind. If he divorced her, what was his reason. I would think it would have been the other way around. If it was all true, she would have been the plantiff and sued him for divorce.

[Jyn_Magic]

slap him and see if he slaps you back, then you will know if he is violent, or test his patience

only kidding of course you cant just set it aside, go speak to his ex wife

[Mark S]

Very possible it is on paper.