Seperated, and I want to get my wife back. She wont give a yes/no do I wait

[Jim W]

or do I divorce? Me and my wife seperated in Jan 08 and now im am trying to reconcile. She says she needs time. Is that a cop-out? Or is time what really is needed? And if I wait and dont file for a divorce and she doesnt take me back I dont know if I could take it. Shes my first love and the pain is strong. I want her back but she now has man friends hanging around and its driving me nuts? She says she doesnt want a divorce ATM but she doesnt want to get back together either. Waiting is killing me. And a possible divorce hurts more. What do I do?
We seperated because she developed an addiction to vicoden which spun a web of lies that I could not handle. I beleive in total honesty in a marriage even if its not what you want to hear. On the second note. No I really havent been giving her the time she asked for. When we seperated in Jan I called everyday for 2 weeks and we didnt even try to reconcile til Feb. once i started dating someone else. We did ok for awhile dating and whatnot But she got arrested again. And again and now is in treatment.