Do you feel that married people are "lazy" when it comes to saving their marriages?

[jane d]

I don't mean domestic abuse, affairs...things like that.

I mean, things like "things aren't we way they used to be", or we "don't talk anymore". Do you think that people should work harder, especially when children are involved?

[Emanon]

Yes, yes and yes!

[Teresa]

Not all people but some people.It is easier to divorce sometimes than it is to save a marriage.

[Ty B]

I don't think that people are lazy at saving their marriage. I think for the most part the problem is that people prepare for the wedding moreso than the actual marriage. We get wrapped up into having the perfect DAY that we don't think past the honeymoon. I'm a product of a broken home and I think that I have become pretty successful in my life. I think that we as parents really don't give our kids enough credit as to what they can understand (depending on the age of course) but these children are subject to more information about life now than we ever did as kids. Hell, my 6 year old logs on to cnn.com for fun lol. The point is if people are thinking about marriage there needs to be an action plan and a real talk about what you will and wont accept i.e. "If you feel like we are losing steam in our relationship we need to talk about it openly instead of holding things in and potentially putting ourselves in a position to where we may cheat" and actually commit to that!

[~nicole~]

Yes because why fix a marriage when it's easier to go out and start a new one.

[Harlow35]

I think laziness in a relationship or marriage is one of the biggest and easiest sins to commit. I think people just start to take things for granted and don't realize that their spouse still needs the things they got during the "dating" phase of their relationship. I realize relationships grow and change but you can't be lazy, marriage take work and effort.
So yes, I think the word Lazy sums it up well.

[kiki]

Yes, I think people are generally lazy. Yes, I believe we live in a "I want gratification NOW" society. Yes, I believe parents are generally selfish when it comes to their children.

Ok ok, bring on the thumbs-down.

[na eh sarang]

not "lazy" but "tired", tired of trying to work out, tired of making self more fraustrated than already it is, and even thou theres child involved that doesnt mean that the marriage has to stay together, would you be happy if you r in the unhappy relationship knowing that you already done everything you could but you just cant have the relationship you used to be? some married couple they do keep stay together after a long unhappy marriage, not becuz of the kids but becuz they just have no other choices, so the couple will do their own things, and even do things behind each others back and still look like they are in the happy marriage....do you see oddness? i think if you r not happy with it, and you have tried everything to work out and still nothin works then maybe its time to let go instead of make it worse...the thing is you always have a choice to make "youself "happy..and for the kids sometime it is better to see the true happiness of the parent instead of see them fight and not talking to each other in one house

[jitterbug]

i don't think people are lazy, i just think that there is so many more options and opportunities, that people are quick to try something different if they have hardship.