Why is he being so awkward!?

[safdenny4775]

I live in the UK, My husband and i seperated in Sept. 06 He has since moved in with a new girlfriend and I have met and began dating a new man. My husband has never paid money for our son, makes lots of last minute excuses why he cant visit our son (car broke down, no money for petrol, not enough money to buy him a mcdonalds, 2 cancer scares, his girlfriends illnesses, his row's with his parents etc. etc.) He has been asked by CSA to pay child maintenance and he is currently appealing against it. He asked me to divorce him since I've not gone back to work yet and can get help with legal costs, so i went to a solicitor and started proceedings and now he's contesting it! His reason is that he disagrees with my version of events and wants to divorce me for HIS reasons. I've explained to him that if I'm divorcing him,i think i should have a right to cite MY reasons for the divorce. I cant cope with this much longer!He is my son's father and i dont intend on stopping him from seeing his son or anything so he wont ever be out of my life as such, i like the idea of asking a mutual friend to help, the trouble is, he cut all ties with everyone i know when we split (even the guy who was his best friend and best man at our wedding) so there is no-one!I have no money or property anyway - thats what i mean - it doesn't make sense!

[TheLegend]

I seriously belived that you need to get a lawyer. Seems to me that your husband is trying to take advantage of you like trying to get money from you perhaps. If you get a lawyer, you will be prepared.-The Legend

[Cham0237]

I agree you REALLY need a lawyer or you are screwed girl!

[Mon_10]

Go ahead with the divorce and stop enabling him. Don't have any contact with him at all. He is using you for a sick bit of sport and can't let go. Thank goodness you had the sense to leave this man. Tell him to speak to your son direct or make arrangements through a mutual friend. Make sure you get that child support - the more the better - no excuses! Good luck..

[kathyw9664]

Let him contest it. Don't 'sweat the small stuff' - his contesting the divorce he asked for is small stuff. If he complained about the carpet in the lawyer's office, that's small stuff too. The guy's confused and confusing but he's out of your life for now. Just get the divorce over with and hope that he has a better relationship with his son in the future.

[Itellitlikeitis]

Find common ground to divorce upon, through a mediator. Here in Canada, if there are support payments made, it is deducted through your employment, right off your paycheque.

[lyndina82]

he's such an asshole!!! You did great getting rid of him... He's selfish and doesn't care about your son. If he wants to get divorced because of HIS own reasons he needed 2 be the one filing for divorce!!!

[Smoker063984]

Uh, isn't that why you're divorcing? You won't have to cope with it much longer.

[bimmer]

He should be at least made to pay full child support or go to prison. after all, it takes two to tango. He sounds like an idiot.