Advice for going to a party where you really don't know anyone except the host?

[Dano3508]

This Saturday I'm invited to a gal b-day/house warming party. Starts mid afternoon & later on everyone is heading to one of the local watering holes. We used to work together & we got back in touch after my divorce (hung out once or twice and talk now & then). Never met any of her friends before & I think I am one of the few guys going (outside of her brother). She recently started seeing her ex again after about 2 years (not sure if they are back together or not). He won't be there because he has to work & she said that's a good thing, because she's not allowed to have any guy friends. Kind of feel this puts me in a weird spot. One hand I don't want to cause any trouble & on the other hand I want to meet her single friends. Should I stop by for a little bit, assess the situation, leave & then meet them later at the bar. I kind of have had a thing for her too. Also do I bring a bottle of wine as a housewarming gift? Don't want to come across as one of the gals.Not sure if she is taken or not. It was a possibility that she might be getting back together with her ex, not sure if they are actually back together. I think she was giving me a heads up so that if he happens to show up, I know what's going on.B-Square- Thanks for being a straight shooter.

[JessicaB8064]

If you make sure you spend time flirting with the other girls, then you WONT come across as one of the "gals". And i wouldn't worry about her boyfriend. Just make sure you pay attention to a certain other girl if he comes. It shouldn't be a problem. I know its hard to ignore a crush, but she is taken. And you aren't. And a lot of her friends aren't. So go for it. And stay for a while.Oh, and a bottle of wine should be fine. That might even make you more attractive to the other women.♥ Jessica

[B-Squared]

Dano,You are in a situation that a million heterosexual males would love to be in. Go to the party, introduce yourself individually to everyone you can and take either the bottle of wine or a plant as a gift. Since she is not allowed to have guy friends her insecure man is what we call possessive/controlling. In short, he will not get loud with or fight another male. After meeting all the hotties that are interesting you can excuse yourself to check some small noises your car has been making.( Wash/ Vacuum) That will give you the alibi to change into something more suited for the watering hole.

[Osiris-R]

Bring something, but don't make it wine if it makes you feel girly, but I don't think it should. I wouldn't go to the party, it sounds like a hardcore trap. But out drinking should be fine...if her "guy friend" happens to appear, you could just be all like, "Hey, I was here first, they just came in." That might help. Also...if you're the only guy, or if the girls get a little clingy, leave. That's recipe for disaster, my friend.

[Billie7877]

Just smile and be yourself