Should I send my father a Father's Day card?

[JoyH]

It's always worth reaching out for. It would do you good too. Evidently you need to or you wouldn't buy a card every year. In fact, why don't you send him all the cards in one big envelope with a simple note - "I'm sorry for not sending these. Happy Father's Day" and sign your name and maybe phone number. Make sure you put your return address on the envelope so if he can't call, he will at least know where to contact you if he wants to The ball will be in his court then. If he contacts you, great. If he doesn't, I'm sorry. Yes, send the card and good luck to you.

[tiptap]

Yes it is. he deserves your attention now at this age of 67. The marriage problem was between your parents and it is gone, i don't see any reason for you to live with it. i do understand the divorce has affected some of your move in life, but you are lucky to have him alive today.As you said it, you have some room for him as a good dad, so why wait longer, let him be happy for the union and start the move as a good daughter. you have lost your mom and you are one of the very few lucky people who has got one of their parents alive to compromise. Not only send the card, please give him a call and enjoy father/daughter relationship.

[MsPollyanna7149]

My brother had the same problem with my dad, and he moved away from the family, and distance himself. After my father passed away 21 years ago my brother still feels guilty for not having some kind of closer with our dad. My advice to you is; its never to late to make up for lost time.“If only. Those must be the two saddest words in the world.” Mercedes Lackey quotes

[autumn0301]

Yes, it could be worth reaching out to him now. The past is the past - you can't change it. He may have deep regrets about his behavior and actions back then. One thing is for sure, he is your only father, the only one you'll ever have. You said yourself, that he helped you and wasn't a bad father. Send him a Father's Day card and I'll bet he will be very touched! Better yet, go and see him on Father's Day, the day after he receives your card in the mail. Go and see him yourself first, without the kids, but maybe the next time, if all goes well, you should bring the kids along. Another option, especially since I don't know how far away your father lives from you, is to call him, or to include your phone no. on the card. If you don't try to reestablish some kind of connection with your father now, you may regret it later. He is still relatively young, although you never know how long a person has in this life, so I think you know what you want to do. You wouldn't have asked this question, otherwise. Good luck whatever you decide to do!

[happygirl4268]

Yeah it is worth reaching out. You don't and can't really know the ins and out of a marriage, even your own parents and you know what you have been through yourself lately, so you may want to do just that. I hope you do.

[Grace5236]

Sure, it's worth reaching out to him. It would be a great gesture on your part and you may find some healing in it as well. However, keep in mind that you shouldn't expect more from him than he's capable of giving.

[Jess7161]

He has his crosses to bear, and you have yours, but you have the power to ease the load, Get to know him for who he is today, and appreciate what time you have left. You don't have to forget what happened in the past, and we all have our short comings, but once he is gone...you will never have the opportunity to ask this question again.Your Father may not have learned from his mistakes, but life has a really strange way of making you feel the pain whether you learn from those mistakes or not. Use the mistakes and betrayals to define your boundaries with him, but don't let it cut him out of your life completely. I am sure there is some good in him, so use this time to appreciate those good qualities, and leave yourself with no regrets.

[Jennie4058]

Send one if you dont you will probably feel bad.

[Christy0846]

I say yes.My mother wasn't the best mom ever. She had her moments. Marrying an abusive man was not one of her shining moments and I still harbor a bit of anger about it....but she got a card on Mother's day! My Brother is upset with my dad because he didn't call him everyday when he was little. It's retarded besides it is excruciating to talk on the phone with my father. He just sits there and waits for you to say something. Anyways, My brother is miserable and it hurts my dad. My mom and I have somewhat of a relationship. If you have a chance to mend things you might as well take it.Good Luck with what you decide.